soo me and my ex broke up on the 5th of Jan properly after having a really rough time from Christmas Day to the 5th, I was really angry at times and it scared her which is what she told me when I asked why she was leaving.
admittedly I was angry looking back and obviously am working on myself, since this I have unfortunately relapsed in breaking no contact several times and have been blocked on everything in the last few days when originally I was just removed.
when we broke up she said it hurt her to leave but she had to protect her peace.
do I wait for her and work on myself or just move on?
Last updated on:2026-02-04T09:10:19+05:30
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i would work on myself and focusing on becoming a better person, and think of it. IF you really want her and actually want a future with her. than you can always wait for her. but you have to know if she really wants the same. If not keep focusing on yourself and becoming a better person for the next girl and move on.
do you feel like you’d be ready to reconnect in a healthy way, or is it more about wanting her back to ease your own pain?
great question that I do not have the answer to yet
Our situation is exactly the same. Except I'm the woman. He did something that really hurt me with his behavior, and it's not the first time he's done it in our five-year relationship. So I decided to leave him. I told him exactly what your ex told you: I wanted to protect myself and have peace because it's hard to be with a man who doesn't value his wife. I blocked him everywhere, and he tried to contact me again, but I didn't want to get back together with him, even though I still love him. It really hurts to be mistreated. The only difference is that I left him for good on January 17th.
us guys definitely don’t realise how much we care about someone and how much they care about us until they leave.
@Swazt3k It's so sad, but so true. For example, it hurt to leave him, but it hurt even more to stay with him. How many times have I tried to talk to him about his behavior, but he doesn't listen. I wanted what was best for him, but he didn't; he only thought about enjoying life.
@ForMyself26 Your ex-girlfriend is lucky because today you realize that what you did wasn't right. You acknowledge your mistakes and you don't badmouth your girlfriend.
@ForMyself26 yeah I definitely don’t badmouth her but atm with the way things are her emotions don’t really matter unfortunately because my priorities are just myself
@Swazt3k Okay, take care of yourself then.✊
@ForMyself26 that’s all we can do in these situations
i lost someone because i let anger take over too often. i kept trying to reach out even when blocked and it just hurt more. it’s hard, i know.
I’m just unlucky that I couldn’t leave her alone after the fact, the more I broke no contact the more it pushed her away definitely
when I say blocked on everything it’s everything excluding number (idk if she has I j don’t really wanna check)