I met a man last year when he was in my city for a school event

I met a man last year when he was in my city for a school event. He was staying nearby and we quickly hit it off. We spent time together got to know each other well in a short period and there was definitely flirting between us. I told him I liked him and he said he felt the same. He even mentioned wanting to pursue dating after finishing school.
Eventually he went back to his home state. For a few months we texted every few days. Then out of nowhere he stopped messaging me for about two weeks. When he came back things felt normal again until three months after we met when he stopped initiating conversations altogether. If I texted him he would reply but he never started the conversations himself. The last message he sent didn’t require a response so I left it on delivered deciding I’d wait for him to reach out next.
It’s been months now and we haven’t spoken. We live in different cities so there’s no chance of running into him. I kept hoping he might come back after graduation once he felt more stable and ready for a relationship. I still feel emotionally connected to him and have deep feelings so I was holding onto that hope.
Yesterday I saw a mutual friend who was around when we first met and flirted. She asked if I’d heard from him and I had to admit I hadn’t in a long time. That moment made me sad sad that this is where things stand.
I realize now that he’s making choices. He’s focusing on other things and actively choosing not to communicate with me. His feelings have changed and as devastating as that is I have to accept it.
It hurts that he isn’t choosing me but I know I need to choose myself. I need to keep moving forward and find someone who truly wants to give me the love and commitment I’m looking for.

Last updated on:2026-02-03T16:04:03+05:30