I can’t seem to get over my ex even though she left me seven years ago. Within just a year of dating we moved to a new city started new jobs adopted two dogs traveled the world and even talked about starting a family. After six years of building a life together she walked out for another man. She told me when I came home from a work trip then moved to another state leaving me with the house and the dogs.
Our relationship wasn’t perfect and I know I share some of the blame for how things ended but I truly thought she was the one. Now seven years later she’s with someone else entirely has kids and has clearly moved on. Meanwhile I’m stuck. Even though she cheated and disrespected me no one I’ve dated since has lived up to the version of her I still carry in my mind.
I even dated someone a couple of years ago who treated me far better than my ex ever did but I couldn’t feel happy. The only time I feel any joy is when I dream about my ex not even as partners but just as friends talking. Making her laugh in those dreams makes me happy.
But reality is different. I’m now slowly drinking myself to death and my dogs are growing old. They loved her and I’m sad they’ll never see her again. Soon it’ll just be me and the house… and eventually just the house.
I don’t know how to let go of her or how to find happiness without her let alone with someone new.
Last updated on:2026-02-04T01:17:02+05:30
Comments (3)
I know there isn't anything I can say to take your pain away. Hopefully in time you can bring yourself to get healthy again without the drinking so you can find your person.
when you think about her now, do you think you’re holding onto her, or the last time in your life when things felt full and hopeful before everything broke?
you don’t miss your ex. you miss that youth period of your life which was related to your ex. realize it. good luck. I know what you are feeling but life is going on.