About nine months ago my girlfriend and I broke up after three years together. The breakup was my fault and I regret the mistakes I made. I’ve genuinely changed and become a better person since then.
She seems happy now doing things we used to dislike together. Meanwhile I can’t stop myself from checking up on her and it keeps dragging me back into the past.
It’s taking a toll on my mental health I feel weak heavy in my chest and stuck in this cycle.
What’s the best way to deal with this kind of feeling and finally move forward?
Last updated on:2026-02-04T18:29:03+05:30
Comments (6)
when you check on her, are you hoping to see she still misses you, or are you trying to prove to yourself that you really changed and it mattered?
i was the one who messed up too, and the guilt stayed way longer than the breakup. watching her look happy without me felt like punishment i couldn’t escape. the chest heaviness, the looping thoughts, SAME
You won't like this but it starts with maybe doing a 7 day challenge, stop looking at her profile for 7 days, then push to 30 days. Until the desire dies. You keep reopening the wound by checking. And I know because I am there as well.
treat yourself with lots of grace. this is a learning process. keep busy and understand that time heals
Get laid. You'll feel much better.
Stop stalking and move on with your life