My girlfriend and I have had a rocky relationship from the start. We had a baby and lived in my hometown but two years later we broke up over differences. It didn’t take long for us to get back together.
Later she wanted me to move to the town where she currently lives and I was ready to do that. But right before I was about to move in we had an argument and she told me to stay where I was and we broke up again.
That was two months ago. Now we’re trying to work things out but she admitted that a couple of weeks after our breakup she kissed a guy from the service program at her church. I told her I could accept it but only if we switched churches.
She refused saying she’s developed a friendship with him and his group and doesn’t want to end it. That makes me feel disrespected and like I’m not a priority.
We share a daughter which is huge yet she seems more focused on keeping her small circle of friends than helping me feel secure about what happened. Since I’ll be part of whatever church she attends it means I’ll have to interact with this guy and that’s the part that bothers me. If she had kissed someone with no ongoing ties I wouldn’t feel this way.
I just want my family together and I thought she at least owed me this one request. But now I don’t know what to do.
Last updated on:2026-02-05T22:33:03+05:30
Comments (3)
Bro if she moved away from you she doesn't want you. She argued with you because she don't want you to move to where she is.
Forget her.
I would feel uncomfortable with it too. Have a chat and see how committed she is to making this work. The two of you owe it to your child to provide a stable loving home ,not an on again off again relationship with fighting and parents dating other people.
I’m going to be straight with you, because I think that’s kinder in the long run.
It’s understandable that you’re uncomfortable, but asking her to change churches and abandon a friend group because of something that happened while you were broken up isn’t a reasonable boundary, it’s control.