So this is a really taken it till on me.
14 days ago my gf (30 yo) break up with me (38m) we been together for seven months and everything seemed fine.
three days prior she seemed not herself so I asked if I can do anything to help and she said it's ok so I gave her some space.
on the break up day I messaged in the morning I hope your feeling better today and asked if she still wanted me.
she replied with she's been thinking a lot and doesn't think she can continue because her heart isn't it in anymore, and I've done nothing wrong.
I accepted it and gave her more space.
I sent her a message seven days later asking if we could told and she clarified her position so I arranged to meet her to give her belongings. she accepted meeting up l, it was an emotional moment we hugged and kissed and she told me she loved me still, and it's the right person wrong time situation. I also gave her some flowers not to win her over but to serve as a reminder of what we had and she'd never been given flowers before and I wanted to be the first person too.
we messaged a few times a day for the next two days before I send one last message thanking her for a Xmas present she brought me because I finally finished building it along with a picture.
I also messaged one of her friends asking for some advise and if she didn't want to get involved I understood, her friend didn't respond.
so last night I decided to do a full detox, I deactivated my FB, insta and deleted the snap app because we still shared locations.
this morning I've found out that she turned her insta to private.
I'm thinking not to look to deep into it, but can't help but think this has ruined my chances of getting back together or at least a friendship
Last updated on:2026-02-07T00:47:46+05:30
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when she said her heart wasn’t in it anymore but also said she loved you, which part felt louder to you, the words or the actions after?
the actions because she was crying too and told me she loves me.
I think she's going thru a depression phase
the detox didn’t ruin anything. i did the same when locations and socials kept reopening the wound. not seeing every move helped my nervous system calm down, even though it felt terrifying at first.
i’ve been the “right person, wrong time” guy too. we hugged, cried, even said i love you after the breakup. that limbo messed with my head WAY more than a clean ending
what happened, did you ever talk again
I don't know what happened and the reason for your break up, but it looks like you are such a sweet and great guy. Give it some time. Maybe she is right that it is "right person, wrong time" So my advise is for now, let it go, and move one. And when on the "right time" you guys will reunite, be better, and will back together. But for now, stop stalking her. Distract yourself by watching your favorite tv show or movie, cook or bake something, go out with friends, go to the gym, do all your hobbies. You got this ❤️