I’ve been with my girlfriend for about two years. Throughout our relationship she has stayed in contact with her ex. I wasn’t entirely comfortable with it but she assured me nothing inappropriate was happening so I chose to trust her.
At one point I noticed an app called Waffle on her phone. When I asked about it she immediately deleted it which made me uneasy. Later I looked into the app and found out it’s designed as a shared journal/messaging platform for two people. Eventually I reinstalled it on her phone and logged in through her Gmail. That’s when I discovered she had been using it to communicate with her ex for quite some time. The messages included anniversary wishes (mentioning a 5th anniversary) references like virtual boyfriend and other emotionally intimate exchanges.
The app hasn’t been active for the past six months. When I asked her about it again she claimed she only used it as a personal journal and denied messaging anyone.
Now I feel conflicted. On one hand the app is no longer in use. On the other hand she hid it deleted it as soon as I noticed and gave me an explanation that doesn’t match what I found. I’m torn between confronting her directly with what I know or letting it go since it isn’t ongoing.
I’d really appreciate objective advice on how to handle this situation and whether it’s something worth addressing.
Last updated on:2026-02-06T15:16:03+05:30
Comments (3)
Have you considered you may have used the wrong Gmail account? Maybe she has multiple accounts?
It is my personal opinion that something like this shows selfishness and a lack of basic respect which are 2 very undesirable relationship qualities. Oh yea, not to mention another undesirable quality which is lying about it to your face. She has shown you she can't be trusted.
Dude. Come on. How do you know she’s not communicating with him in another way? Another app? Maybe even Snapchat? How can you trust her again? You’re young, she’s not the one. Find your person who is only into you.