We dated and were so attached that we stayed on video calls almost 24/7. He understands me in ways no one else ever has and the time I spend with him is the happiest of my life. He notices the smallest details and remembers everything. I’m also his first girlfriend.
Our breakup wasn’t because of a fight or loss of feelings but due to circumstances mainly his family who would never accept someone from a different community marrying their son. Even after we broke up we never fully went no-contact. We kept texting though we stopped calling for a while.
Later his brother began monitoring him to make sure he wasn’t talking to me. Recently though we started talking more again. Some days it feels casual other days it feels deeply intimate. Twice he drunk-called me to say how much he misses and loves me and how he tried to go against his family but couldn’t. That night he even called himself my boyfriend again.
For the past few days we’ve been talking regularly and I love it. He makes me incredibly happy but the uncertainty scares me because at any moment he might have to let me go again. We’re too young to think about marriage right now but his family’s disapproval hangs over us both. I struggle a lot with uncertainty and emotional attachment which makes this even harder.
Now I’m questioning whether I should keep talking to him or distance myself. How do I protect myself from getting hurt again?
Last updated on:2026-02-06T21:13:42+05:30
Comments (4)
i was in the same sort of situation , we broke up because his parents couldn’t handle it but then secretly got back together . our repairs up was the same , the video calls all the time and the feeling like he understands you . However , eventually he realised he couldn’t disobey his parents anymore . In my eyes , be careful as you may just end up with your heart broke like me - yet also if he truly loves you then you can try to make it work . we were too young as well to make a proper desicon , it sicks
when he drunk-calls and says he loves you, how do you feel the next day. comforted, or shaken and waiting for the drop again?
i get why you’re torn.
i had the same thing, constant calls, first love, family blocking everything. we never fought either. it was circumstances and fear. staying half-connected kept reopening the wound