help he texted me how are you? but i made him so sure for no contact what should i do? respond or not?
Last updated on:2026-02-08T13:52:11+05:30
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help he texted me how are you? but i made him so sure for no contact what should i do? respond or not?
Last updated on:2026-02-08T13:52:11+05:30
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when you asked for no contact, what were you hoping it would give you right now? peace, distance, clarity, or something else
peace mostly but I als hope and maybe this is cruel that it would hurt him the no contact. That he would call me up drunk so I could cut him off like he did to me
don't respond just ignore
i begged for no contact, then the “how are you?” hit and my stomach DROPPED 😭 i replied once and spiraled for days. it reopened everything i’d just started to calm.
I want to share something with you that’s been on my heart, and I want to say this as gently as I possibly can because I know how much your heart is hurting right now.
When you saw that 'How are you?' text, how did it actually make you feel? I imagine it brought up a whirlwind of emotions—maybe a little bit of hope mixed with a lot of confusion. It’s such a hard position to be in. Before you decide what to do, I’d love for you to try something that has really helped me. It’s an acronym called HALT.
Ask yourself: Are you feeling Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired? So often, when we feel an intense urge to respond, it’s actually our body just needing food, rest, or a little bit of human connection that doesn't have to come from our ex. Meeting those needs first can change everything.Maybe Google The halt acronym.
If I could offer a little bit of loving advice:
Wait 24 hours: Give yourself the gift of time. See how you feel tomorrow once the initial shock of the text has worn off. This helps you respond with clarity rather than reacting from a place of pain.
Reach out to your 'village': Talk to a friend or a family member who knows the full story of your relationship first. Let them be your sounding board.
The 'Nothing Changed' Test: Ask yourself honestly—if you got back together tomorrow and absolutely nothing had changed, is that the relationship you truly want? Have you thought about if blocking might give you more peace?
To help stay strong, I’ve been listening to a video on YouTube called 'Let Go and Trust the Universe' by Louise Hay (on the Hay House infinitive channel). I listen to the first half in the morning. It has been so helpful for balancing my nervous system and helping me feel at peace with letting go. It might give you that same sense of calm right now.
there is also the audiobook or book by Greg Bernhardt called. it's called a breakup because it's broken that I have read a few times over the years.
No contact is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do, but you are worth the effort. Whether you choose to continue the silence or not, please be kind to yourself today. Sending you so much strength and love.
we are all here to support you. I believe in you. you are worthy of love just as you are.
thank you so so much this really helps me.
@FrostBuzz988 anytime❤️🩹