what I’ve been thinking about today is, I hate how unfair everything can be. you know you try to do right in a relationship and even if u mess up, you think someone would forgive you the way you would forgive them. we are only humans. but today I’m thinking how unfair it is for me to carry all the emotional burden while he is not. he gets to move on with life, get a new girlfriend, start over, be happy. while I’m stuck in grief, scared to start over- move on, him stuck on my mind constantly. it’s draining. thought this phase would’ve been over by now.
Last updated on:2026-02-09T19:25:05+05:30
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do you feel like part of the pain is not just missing him, but feeling abandoned with all the emotional cleanup while he got a clean slate
my body was still catching up to the loss even when my brain wanted it done. letting myself be mad about the unfairness weirdly helped it move through me
i was the one carrying ALL the emotional weight while he just… moved on. new girl, new life. i was stuck replaying everything, wondering why i was the only one paying the price
I totally understand how you feel. It sounds like you're feeling scared to move on. I also feel scared to move on and to let go of my ex-boyfriend.
It looks like you're feeling tired, exhausted, and drained from constantly thinking about your ex and your past relationship. I feel the same way too right now. I can't even imagine how heartbroken you must feel to see your ex with his new girlfriend. I want you to know that you are worthy of love, just as you are. When people leave our lives, it makes room for the people who are supposed to stay.
I find it hard to focus on other things, so I’m going to share a few things that have helped me:
Louise Hay: Let Go and Trust the Universe
When I first wake up, I like to listen to this video. It reminds me that "miracles come when we make space for them" and that "the people who leave make space for those who are meant to stay". It helps me start the day with the belief that everything is working out in divine order. It sounds like Hocus pocus but the way she explains letting go helps.
https://youtu.be/3qT-jGAbIZo
Paul McKenna: Broken Heart Hypnosis
I have also found starting my day with this hypnosis very helpful. It uses a "mind programming process" to help recalibrate emotional signals and reduce the intensity of painful messages. It even has a technique where you visualize a difficult memory and "drain the color out of it" to change how it feels.
https://youtu.be/FArl5c7HrKc
Conscious Uncoupling Course
I've also done the Conscious Uncoupling course on Mindvalley, which really helped me get over my ex of 3 years. It gives you 10 or 15-minute videos every day followed by a short exercise.
https://www.mindvalley.com/conscious-uncoupling
Ho'oponopono Hawaiian Prayer by The Honest Guys
Whenever I feel like someone should apologize or forgive me but won't, I find this meditation helpful. I picture my ex saying: I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, and I love you. It's a powerful tool for releasing that stuck energy and finding inner peace.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V8RpkTpP3gM
I find this video really helps me release the burden of waiting for an apology that might never come, allowing me to forgive for my own sake. I hope these help you find even a little bit of peace today.
I totally understand if these suggestions don't work for you. what is helpful for one person may not be helpful for another. healing takes time. I believe you. ❤️🩹