My ex and I broke up last year. It’s been a few months since the breakup and about a month of no contact.
I’ve started dating again but I’ve noticed a pattern that’s bothering me.
There’s one girl who clearly likes me and while I think she’s cool I only feel medium interest. I catch myself comparing her to my ex and thinking she’s not as pretty which makes me hesitant to pursue her.
Then there’s another girl I’m more drawn to she’s attractive ambitious successful and we even have a date planned. On paper she’s better in almost every way compared to my ex and she is definitely pretty but I keep getting stuck on the fact that she’s not “prettier” than my ex. It bothers me so much that I’ve even thought about canceling the date.
I know how shallow that sounds and I don’t like that I’m thinking this way but it happens automatically. My sister told me to go on the date anyway because avoiding it only reinforces the comparison and keeps me stuck.
How do I stop comparing new people to my ex especially when it comes to looks?
Last updated on:2026-02-11T21:03:03+05:30
Comments (2)
Uhm yeah.. you’re clearly not over your ex yet. Might help if you don’t date for the meantime cause you’ll be wasting their time and yours.
You don’t really need to be dating right now considering you literally broke up a few months ago. Not only will it hurt your future dates, but it may also keep you back from healing properly.