Missing him on my birthday

Today I miss him. In two more days, it’s my birthday and I hate that I keep hoping he will message me and greet me a happy birthday. I don’t know why, but I get triggered thinking about him every time I’m at work. Especially now, because I’m alone at work.

I miss him when I’m at work, maybe because it’s quiet here in the office. I’m not that busy, I have no one to talk to, so I’m not really fully distracted. I hate that while I do my job, I overthink too much. I think about me and my ex's good memories together, it just keeps replaying. For some freaking reason, our summer roadtrip keeps replaying in my mind again and again, and I don’t know why.

Right now, to be honest, I want to cry. And I know it’s not worth it. It’s not worth crying over him. We’re on day 18 of no contact, and I guess I’m grieving the loss of him. I miss him. I want to message him. I want HIM to message me.

Last updated on:2026-02-17T03:25:36+05:30

Comments (12)

WildHug196
WildHug196 2 wks ago

do something that will distract you from thinking about him. Don’t wait on his message because the truth is it may never come and you deserve so much more than just a text message

SnazPop462
SnazPop462 2 wks ago

trust me stay as far away from him on ur bday as u can. speaking from experience a lot of shit goes down when u break no contact on ur bday

Hyfaa
Hyfaa 2 wks ago

keep no contact

DodoFizz437
DodoFizz437 2 wks ago

I can make you feel him without being him

Unhealed
Unhealed 2 wks ago

Treat yourself to a spa day. Happy birthday!

Unhealed
Unhealed 2 wks ago

My therapist told me that when something triggers you, you should retrain your brain to think about something else.

nike
nike 2 wks ago

🥳happy birthday 🎂🥂queen treat yourself cake delicious food enjoy he coward

hiddengem
hiddengem 2 wks ago

if he doesn’t message you on your birthday, what do you think will hurt more… the silence itself, or what it might mean about the relationship

GreyFade
GreyFade 3 wks ago

day 18 of no contact is still so fresh

Alonebuddy
Alonebuddy 3 wks ago

birthdays after a breakup are brutal. i remember staring at my phone all day hoping he’d text. the quiet at work made it worse too. my brain would just replay our best memories like a highlight reel

Brenley764
Brenley764 3 wks ago

You got this! you don't need him to message you!, you are enough!, make new summer plans! - spoil yourself on your birthday. give yourself the love you would give your daughter if she was going through this.

JoyLover931
JoyLover931 3 wks ago

thank you🥹❤️ this is so helpful