I’m sitting at work crying right before an event I need to run because I didn’t know where else to turn.
My partner has this habit of disappearing whenever he’s stressed and I haven’t heard from him in a while. I even have a flight booked to see him this weekend but this morning he stopped sharing his location with me.
It hurts so much. Everyone says it gets easier with time but right now it doesn’t feel that way. He was such a wonderful caring partner we built so many memories together. He was the first man to ever call me beautiful and he always supported me in everything I was doing.
I know I’m a good person and people tell me I’ll find someone else but there was something so special about him. He made me feel deeply loved and we planned a future together. I don’t understand how things could suddenly turn upside down.
Last updated on:2026-02-13T21:42:39+05:30
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I think u ex is avoidant
has he done this disappearing thing before and then come back like nothing happened, or is this the first time it’s felt this serious?
right now makes sense that it doesn’t feel easier. when someone pulls away without clarity, your brain searches for safety.
i dated someone who would disappear when stressed too. that vanishing act messes with your head so badly. one minute you feel secure, the next you’re spiraling at work trying to hold it together. i’ve cried in bathroom stalls before big meetings. it’s the uncertainty that HURTS the most