Confused about our breakup: he kisses me, then says no

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He said that we are on a break I tried calling over and over left hundreds of messages and he refuse to respond he told me he in a relationship with someone else and it really hurt me since we are in a relationship since 2023 and tonight he kissed me and then said I don’t want you to call me have patience and he will call me when he’s ready I really hope this app helps me to get over him and move on with my life

Last updated on:2026-02-17T07:24:21+05:30

Comments (16)

HappyLight983
HappyLight983 2 wks ago

almost reached out on valentine’s day. wrote the text, deleted it. proud of myself!

WildHug196
WildHug196 2 wks ago

proud of you too

noved2000
noved2000 2 wks ago

I'm proud of you too.

FadingHope
FadingHope 2 wks ago

when he says he’ll call when he’s ready… where does that leave you? do you feel chosen, or just kept on standby?

WildHug196
WildHug196 2 wks ago

kept on stand by that’s why I cut him off completely

BrokenHealer
BrokenHealer 2 wks ago

Going through the same phase, my ex told me that contacting her will make problems to her! I have to accept that she's gone, but i don't know what to do and how rebuild my life? 😢

WildHug196
WildHug196 2 wks ago

I feel the same way but try I know we are in pain now but it will get better soon

Hyfaa
Hyfaa 2 wks ago

you deserve better

WildHug196
WildHug196 2 wks ago

thank you for this

tenButt01
tenButt01 2 wks ago

when someone told me to “have patience” while they figured out another relationship, i realized i was the only one waiting

WildHug196
WildHug196 2 wks ago

yes so true

fearlessG
fearlessG 2 wks ago

“we’re on a break but he’s with someone else” limbo and it messed with my head so bad. kissing you and then saying don’t call? gah. that push and pull really HURTS. i felt addicted to the hope

WildHug196
WildHug196 2 wks ago

I was but then I sat and realized he’s never going to make me his priority

noved2000
noved2000 2 wks ago

​I read your post and I just wanted to reach out. First, I’m so proud of you for sharing your story. That first post is often the hardest to write, but being honest about where you’re at is such a huge step toward healing. (I think this is your first post)
​I can only imagine how heavy your heart feels right now. Being with someone for years and then having them kiss you, only to say "don't call me, I'll call you," is incredibly confusing. It’s like being handed a hope you aren't allowed to touch. How did that feel for you? I'm guessing it felt like a total rollercoaster of emotions.
​I wanted to share something that really helped me gain perspective when I was hurting. I truly believe that people come into our lives for a season, a reason, or a lifetime:
​A Season: They are there to walk with us through a specific chapter of life. They bring joy and companionship for a time, but they aren't meant to stay until the end of the book.
​A Reason: These people come to teach us something—often something we didn't know we needed to learn about our own strength, our worth, or our boundaries.
​A Lifetime: These are the ones who stay and grow with us through every single season, no matter what.
​It’s hard to see which one he is right now, but focusing on you is the best way to find out.
​When I was going through my own heartbreak, I read a book called It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken by Greg Behrendt. Honestly, I’ve read it a few times now! It helped me realize that I needed a "He-tox"—which basically means going totally No Contact. It’s not about being mean; it’s about giving your heart the space to stop reacting to him so you can start hearing yourself again.
​I’ve also just started Amy Chan’s "Breakup Bootcamp" Masterclass, and it’s been amazing for my growth. If you can use this time to focus on your own healing and evolution, I promise it helps so much.
​Please don't sit by the phone waiting for that call. Use this time for you. You are worth so much more than a "maybe later."
​Sending you so much love and strength. I'm here if you want to talk more.❤️‍🩹

WildHug196
WildHug196 2 wks ago

thank you so much for your wise words

noved2000
noved2000 2 wks ago

@WildHug196 anytime