Once upon a time we were a safe space. There was mutual trust, respect, and authenticity. We were there for each other.
And then it stopped.
The story I started to tell myself....
I began to notice......
As much as I wanted to continue to be part of your life, I think it would be best to stop all communication.
I've not been able to completely focus on my healing by staying in contact with you and it's been keeping me from doing what I need to do to get on with my life. I wanted so badly to convince myself that I was ready to spend time with you because there's no greater joy in my life than spending time with you and I did not want to lose that.
However, I know that the only way I will get healthy and truly grow as a person is if I completely let go and it starts with us having no communication.
I ask that you do not contact me any further.
This letter is to inform you that I hereby request that you cease all forms of contact with me as of today. This prohibition includes telephone calls, texts, email or other electronic communication, letters, cards, gifts, and personal visits. Please do not attempt to show up at my house or contact me directly under any circumstances. Contact from you for any reason by any medium is unwelcome.
I love you more than I can even begin to describe and I wish you nothing but the best.
Thank you so much for understanding.
I treasure all the amazing times we have shared together.
I wish you all the best.
Warmly,
Last updated on:2026-02-17T07:55:17+05:30
Comments (6)
I agree. when someone causes you more pain then joy then it is time to move on.
when you say you couldn’t focus on healing while staying in contact, what kept pulling you back in?
What kept pulling me back in was him. He would call or text or email. I would be trying to leave but he wouldn't let me go. I also would be so flattered and moved when he reached out after I dumped him.I thought it was love but it was just control. hoovering.
I also got sucked back in because I would read old messages and look at pictures of him and think about only the good times.. I would block him and then unblock. I would make excuses for his behavior. I kept going back for more or letting him come back. I kept giving into my brains craving for him. he was my drug. If I just would have waited 20 min the urge to contact him would have increased in intensity.
i won’t lie, when i finally cut communication, the silence was LOUD. but it was the first time i could actually hear myself think. for me, no contact wasn’t about punishing her
I agree. No contact shouldn't be about punishing the other person. I needed to do no contact because he wanted to stay in contact and not work on things in a healthy way. He wouldn't fight right (book) and he wasn't interested in taking any accountability or repairing the relationship. He just want to dump his pain on me. I would be kind and understanding trying to support but when I tried to put healthy boundaries in and asked him not to call me certain things he never listened so I can to protect myself, my mental health and heart because he no longer cared about his actions hurt me. I had become his punching bag.(verbally) I love him but his words were destroying me and I was starting to sink into a depression but he didn't care. I had to face the fact he cared more about himself then he ever would me. He didn't care how his actions affected other and he never would.
i wrote almost the exact same letter once. we were a safe space too… until we weren’t. choosing no contact even when you still love them? that’s a different kind of heartbreak. i remember thinking “i love you but i can’t keep bleeding like this.