I’m officially 7 days into No Contact, and I wanted to share my journey because this week was one of the hardest yet.
Before this, I had actually made it to 9 days. I was feeling good, but in a moment of weakness, I unblocked him. I thought I had re-blocked him, but I hadn't—and he got through. I was weak, I answered the phone, and I felt so much disappointment in myself. Having to reset my "No Contact" clock back to Day 1 felt devastating.
But I realized that if I wanted a different result, I had to take different actions. To protect my peace, I officially changed my email and my phone number. I’m so proud of myself for making it through this first week because it wasn't easy.
What’s Helping Me Right Now:
I’ve started the Breakup Bootcamp Masterclass by Amy Chan. I’m on Day 3, and today’s lesson was on rumination—that loop where you just can't stop thinking about them. She taught us that we need a "go-to" affirmation to interrupt those thoughts.
My Affirmation:
"I know this is hard, but I know I can get through this."
I wrote this on the back of a Mickey Mouse postcard that I carry with me everywhere. Now, whenever my mind starts to replay:
The hurtful things he said
The "good times" we had
Missing his voice or seeing him on video (the hardest part of long distance)
Just wishing I could be held...
...I pull out my postcard and I say it out loud. It’s my way of taking my power back.
If you’ve had a relapse or had to start your clock over, please don't give up. We are stronger than our urges. One day at a time.
Last updated on:2026-02-22T01:41:34+05:30
Comments (8)
you say the hardest part is missing his voice and just wanting to be held… do you feel like it’s him you miss most, or the comfort and closeness you had with him?
some days I miss him specifically. Other days I miss the comfort and closeness.
That's great advice, just move on to the next phase without beating yourself up about a slip up. we are so vulnerable and not perfect, keep up the great work.
Thank you for the kind words and support. ♥️
i love that you’re not pretending it’s easy. for me, the rumination was the worst part. the replaying his voice, the “good times,” the what-ifs. having something physical to grab onto like your postcard actually helps interrupt that spiral
It has helped a lot over the past couple of days. What is the most valuable thing that you've learned during your breakup?
i’ve reset my no contact clock more times than i want to admit that shame after answering the call… gah. i felt so weak. but changing your number? that’s BIG. i had to do something drastic too to finally protect my peace. 7 days is no joke.
Today I really felt like reaching out. I almost relapsed. I just barely made it through the day without contacting him. I had to remind myself that I know this is hard but I know I can get through this. it's an affirmation that I learned. I've been saying it to myself over and over again over for the last 24 hours. I've had to reset my no contact clock a few times too. If I am really being honest I have been trying to end things and go no contact for months but I was never strong enough. I aloud myself to get pulled back in because I was lonely and didn't want to be alone. No contact isn't easy. sometimes contact reminds us why the relationship could never work.