Why do i still feel the urge to reach out after a breakup?

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I’m doing a lot better since everything happened but I’m still getting like little urges to try and reach out despite being blocked on everything, I know how to resist the urges but I’m j confused as to why I’m getting these urges considering I’m fine 95% of the time.

Last updated on:2026-02-23T20:03:03+05:30

Comments (6)

sadteddy
sadteddy 7 days ago

do the urges come at specific times? like late at night or when you’re bored? sometimes mine weren’t about them at all… it was about wanting comfort in that exact moment

Neverhurt
Neverhurt 1 wk ago

’ve learned that being okay 95% of the time doesn’t erase the bond overnight. sometimes the urges are just habit, not love.

VoidMuse
VoidMuse 1 wk ago

i was “fine” most of the day too, laughing with friends, functioning, whatever. but then out of nowhere i’d get this pull to reach out. even though i was blocked everywhere. it messed with my head because i thought healing meant NO urges. but for me it was just my brain still detoxing from the attachment it didn’t mean i wasn’t moving on.

CozyKind415
CozyKind415 1 wk ago

ai have the same. It gets less and less. For me its also really hard because i have tk constantly see her (we have kids) and communicate with her on a parentla level... But even that one can manage

Sojourner
Sojourner 1 wk ago

Because love is quite literally an addiction. You get hit with certain hormones while interacting with your partner. Once you split and break contact you quite literally go into withdrawal.

OpenHeart643

hai