Why do breakups hurt so much? my 96 days of hope

I was 96 days in then I failed. I’m so disappointed in myself. I thought it would be different this time. it’s has only been 7 days and he showed me why we broke up. I feel so foolish. so back to day 1 again. and it hurts just as bad as the first time. guess this was the eye opener I needed. just wish my heart didn’t have to break again. I need comforting words 😞

Last updated on:2026-02-23T19:26:03+05:30

Comments (6)

try2heal
try2heal 1 wk ago

when he showed you why you broke up… what did he do that hit you the hardest? was it something new, or the same old pattern coming back?

Robab11
Robab11 1 wk ago

96 days is not erased just because you slipped. those days still count. they proved you’re capable. sometimes the “failure” is actually the confirmation we needed. it hurts like hell, yeah.

PainfulEcho
PainfulEcho 1 wk ago

i made it 3 months no contact once, felt so proud, then one “hey” text pulled me right back in. i really thought THIS time would be different too. it wasn’t. and when he showed me exactly why we broke up, it felt like breaking up all over again. you’re not foolish. you just loved him. that’s not stupid, that’s human

Sojourner
Sojourner 1 wk ago

It's okay to fail because it's only in failing you truly get to learn how to do things right. Finding yourself is hard. Possibly the hardest thing. You associated the idea of happiness with this person and that's okay. But what you can do now is take this situation as a lesson that you deserve better. Focus on yourself and invest in the only thing that should matter to you now. Yourself. You're worth more than being the stepping stone for someone else. You got this. Yeah you relapsed and went back. But now you know it wasn't worth your time. Now you're free.

PogoBun805
PogoBun805 1 wk ago

thats ok... the realization that u r sitting with woukd not have come to you, had u not contacted him again... its part of your growth process.. ur gonna be stronger, better this time

Hyfaa
Hyfaa 1 wk ago

sorry
its ok
Perhaps it’s for the best.
you know every thing happens for a reason