I'm in the depression stage. I need to push myself out of this stage and start working out, showering, and sleep in bed because I have been living on the couch. I learned from my break up course that I need to start moving and listening to more up beat music.
Last updated on:2026-02-25T03:54:33+05:30
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do you feel more stuck because you miss them, or because your routine collapsed around the breakup?
I feel more stuck because my routine collapsed around our relationship because I was trying to make them happy and then once we broke up I became depressed and have had no interest in my routine.
Bouldering really helped me get oyt of depression. I dont kniw how it is where yiu live but find a communuty sport! You move, you interact with people and builld up dopamine. Taht helps you getting out of the hole!
Thank you for sharing that a joining community sport would be helpful for me to build dopamine.
shock and denial it's so hard to believe,I am not yet living in a reality emotions are roller coasting 1 minute I am fine the next minute am down but not contacting her and never will I.....I will get through this it's my life time lesson be the last damn
I keep telling myself the affirmation I learned from my break up boot camp course that, I know this is hard but I will get through this. I agree that no contact really helps. after 2 weeks I find that the depression is lifting a little bit. the days are slightly becoming a little easier. I still get waves where I do miss them but then I remind myself of all the hurtful things he did and how we will never change. we will get through this together. I believe in you.
@noved2000 I believe in you too...now we need to focus on building the love we lost for ourselves...and be grateful it ended...than holding on to something that was destroying us internally..... depression will end trust me and the grass is greener on the other side
bargaining, thankfully
Thank you for sharing. what stage you're in?.
i was EXACTLY there. couch became my whole world. barely showering, barely eating, just existing. depression stage is heavy and sticky. upbeat music felt fake at first. but i remember the day i finally stood up and took a shower. small win, but it mattered
Thank you for sharing that. it was difficult for you to shower. it's nice to know that I'm not alone. you're kind words will not be forgotten. 🚿♥️
Bargaining and accountability. I see where it all went wrong and I grapple with it. Grapple with if only I said or did the right thing. But I realize in my heart she made up her mind. That she felt a certain way and nothing I could ever dream of doing would be big enough, be right enough to fix things, save things or even change things. I wake up everyday flooded by anguish. The idea that she didn't care enough to stay. But I remind myself. I kept trying to run away too and she kept begging me to stay. When finally I decided to stay she ran. Ran way better then I had ever had the strength to. So now I sit with her words. Her feeling replaying in my mind unable to let go of it. Trying to tell myself to focus on myself but it's hard. Almost unbearably so. Today started with thoughts, plans to show her she was still on my mind. But I pushed those aside. Because I reminded myself I already did all I could. Now I have to move on to acceptance.
The good news is that the urge to contact her will peek and pass within 20 minutes. knowing that fact has really helped me stay no contact. the first 12 days of no contact were really hard. I felt like a drug addict in withdrawal when we first broke up. all I wanted to do was get back together and hear his voice and be held in his arms. a big turning point for me was when I started the breakup boot camp course by Amy Chan. It sounds cheesy but watching videos for 5 minutes a day where I learn new things about myself and how to process and deal with the breakup has been very helpful. I now focus on growth instead of him. thank you for sharing your story so I know I'm not alone. I believe in you and I know you will get through this.
i am at acceptance stage accepted it and started working on me and giving all things and efforts towards me
I'm so proud of you for focusing on yourself and your personal growth. that is a huge accomplishment. congratulations for making it to the acceptance stage.