Feeling guilty after a toxic relationship: is it my fault?

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He constantly kept on doing things that crushed my trust, we live in seperate countries. He is my one and only relationship. I was 19 when we started this and he was 26. He kept on treating me like garbage. He never picked my call at one ring and when I fought for it, he told me he wanted peace. I agree I fought with him alot but he was never listening and acknowledging me for what I am sad. He literally cut the call on my face when I was crying where I was not able to breath. Am I really wrong there that I kept on fighting?

Last updated on:2026-02-24T13:17:11+05:30

Comments (6)

uncovered
uncovered 7 days ago

when you weren’t fighting, did he ever make you feel safe and heard? or were you mostly fighting just to get the bare minimum?

BOBO224
BOBO224 7 days ago

he never ever ever tried to make me feel safe. I just left me crying.

jimissWW
jimissWW 1 wk ago

when i look back at my own situation, i wasn’t wrong for having feelings. i was just begging someone who didn’t want to show up. if you’re crying and can’t breathe and he cuts the call… that’s not you being dramatic. that’s you not being cared for the way you needed

BOBO224
BOBO224 7 days ago

he has done with me thousands of time. Like I literally tried everything to get his attention

Silenctear
Silenctear 1 wk ago

i was 20 dating a 27 year old long distance and i kept thinking i was “too emotional.” he’d hang up on me when i cried too. told me he just wanted “peace.” i kept fighting because i felt unheard. it wasn’t me being crazy. it was me being HURT. so no… you’re not wrong for reacting to being treated like garbage

BOBO224
BOBO224 1 wk ago

thankyou for that.I am feeling good after this.