i started a new relationship recently and i felt so happy in the beginning as ofc the honeymoon stage and one day he made me so upset and didn’t validate my feelings and olayed it off as a anywayss to change the conversation but, i never expected it from him and it made me so sad bcz deep down i thought my ex would have never done that its bad to think that way especially in a new relationship but im started to see red flags in my new relationship that i never saw with my previous partner of 2 years:/
he started being so weird and distant lately and focuses a lot on his other things and sometimes forgets about me due to him being on the game i don’t mind but i feel neglected and told him even when we make plans and hang out he later says okay ima hop on and its just feels weird bcz in my old relationship it was never like that he would invite me to play with him and i even have a console amd i asked if he would like too he says no. i just need help bcz i dont like to compare i try to avoid it but im in a situation where my ex treated me better than my new partner:(
Last updated on:2026-02-26T08:22:03+05:30
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you told him you felt neglected, did he actually hear you? like did he try to adjust at all… or did he kind of just brush it aside again?
when i start feeling neglected, especially with the gaming thing and the “ima hop on” after plans, i try to pay attention to how consistent that pattern is.
new relationship, honeymoon high… then one moment where he brushed off my feelings and i felt my stomach DROP. and the worst part? realizing my ex would’ve handled it better. i hated comparing too, but sometimes it’s not comparison. sometimes it’s your gut going “hey… this feels off.” i ignored that once and it only got louder.
I also had a rebiund relationship. I started comlaring. I thiught I was haply but I realized I am not. I ended it to stay for myself a while and prolerly heal. It is hard to be alone. I cant lie. But I am pulling through until I comleltely accelt it. I see thatbI cannot really bond with ankther woman if I am still emotionally attached to my ex. She is already in a new kind of relationship and it brwaks my heart. I cannot rwally pull the total no contactbbecause we have two kids. But still I will not rush into something new.