Hi everyone, I just break up with my gf.
I graduate, had a nice stable job and thought everything was very stable with my loving gf that I think of married with her. Until she went to a mixed gender hostel for her master and saw the guy. Then I choose to step out.
She was struggling with either me and that guy, and I choose to steps out as they will be staying tgt in that house for another 2 to 3 years, am I stupid to let her go? Should I be best friend with her?
That guy have her password for her social media account, they just meet 3 weeks, and she believes him already.
It just happen yesterday, could U give me some advice on what I should do, I feel so empty and don't know what to do
I want her to be happy and I'm feeling so painful. Going to start my gym journey but how do you stop to not think of a person that U always shared with everyday?
Last updated on:2026-02-27T01:59:57+05:30
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did you step out because you truly wanted to, or because you felt like you were already losing her?
To me, I think both, I wanted to let her go as it will only drain out my energy with her and the boy there. while I also know that I will lose her as time goes by.
if i’m being real, i couldn’t be best friends with someone i still loved. it kept me stuck. especially when another guy already has her passwords after 3 weeks… that would mess with my head.
i was in almost the exact spot. long term plans, talking marriage, stable job, everything felt solid. then she met someone new and suddenly i was “confusing her.” i stepped back too because i couldn’t compete with someone she was literally living with. i remember asking myself every day if i was stupid for letting her go. but honestly… choosing not to beg for someone who’s unsure about you? that’s not stupid. that’s self respect. it just hurts like hell right now
Yaaa I didn't know what to do right now, it's like something in my heart and daily lives have gone out of sudden, it feels so bad. my head keep thinking did I do anything wrong or why my love can't compete with that guy.
sorry to hear that :(
firstly, i believe it was a good choice for you to let her go. the right person won't hesitate to choose you, let alone making you an option.
i think going to the gym will really help, it will help you get your mind off of her and improve your physical health too. and, do other things you like. keep yourself busy. surround yourself with people who care, understand, and support you!
i know it's hard to not overthink, to not keep replaying those scenes in your head. i understand because i'm going through the same right now. try to do what i said above. it'll get better, i'm sure you'll get through it. :)
Hopefully everything goes well, sometimes I just can't stop myself to think bout her, wanna text her, or what she doing right now...
@TurboTap466 yeah i totally get you, but people are here to help!
No. Being her friend and seeing her be happy will just make you sad. Friendship is just an easy way to keep access to a comfort person but in the end they use you as an emotional yo-yo and you get thrown out of balance for it.