Why Do I Always Get Blamed in Arguments?

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​If you’ve ever tried to resolve a conflict only to end up being blamed for the conflict itself, you know how draining it is. I’m officially done with the "switch-flipping" and the circular arguments that lead nowhere.
​I’ve learned that if someone would rather play the victim than take accountability, there is no room for growth. I’m choosing my peace over the exhaustion of trying to be heard by someone who isn't listening. Onward and upward!

Why Do I Always Get Blamed in Arguments?

Last updated on:2026-02-27T03:14:04+05:30

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Riffta
Riffta 5 days ago

when you say you’re breathing easy now… do you feel relief more than sadness? or is it that weird mix of both?

noved2000
noved2000 4 days ago

I feel like my emotions come in waves. sometimes I feel relief, calm and at peace. other times I feel sad or angry or lonely or disappointed that things didn't work out. sometimes I even miss them. Best advice I got was to ride the waves as they come , let them break where they break, and stay riding it instead of let it overtake you

luvCrush
luvCrush 5 days ago

i was stuck in that exact merry go round. every time i brought up something that hurt me, somehow i became the villain. the switch flipping, the circular arguments, the zero accountability… it made me feel CRAZY. walking away was the first time i could actually breathe again choosing peace is not giving up. it’s survival.

noved2000
noved2000 4 days ago

I agree. thank you for sharing your story. it helps to know that I wasn't alone with them playing the victim and the circular arguments and the zero accountability. it was exhausting and draining being portrayed as the villain. I felt like if I would have stayed I probably would have had a nervous breakdown From all of the gas lighting.