I Feel Like a Fool After Getting Back With a Cheater – What Did I Do Wrong?

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So I have been dating this guy for 4months,during this period I found out he was a huge cheater so I decided to quit the relationship buh I could not bring myself to do it cause I loved him.So fast forward to last month I consulted a friend of mine about the issue n she encouraged me to get another guy to heal me while in the relationship so I can leave my man.so I went to this new guy house for the first time and I swear on everything that nothing happened between us.So when I was returning home the my man's brother saw me with the new guy and told him.He called me cheap and all sort of things,the day that incident happened my man told me to come to his so that we will solve the issue,when I went he forcefully had sex with me and blocked me after that I was hurt deeply so I vented my frustration on the other guy so he voluntarily went to talk to my man on my behalf that nothing happened between us.A week after the incident I also blocked him then he used a different number to contact me and tell me wants to fix things so we should meet up and I foolishly went and we had sex again,is been 3weeks since it happened and he has not called or text me I feel like a fool

Last updated on:2026-03-02T10:12:00+05:30

Comments (12)

4get2smile
4get2smile 3 days ago

when you went back the second time, was it because you still wanted him, or because you needed closure?

LoopSpin57
LoopSpin57 19 hrs ago

I wanted him

CryDust
CryDust 4 days ago

when someone cheats, shames you, forces sex, blocks you, then pops back up when they’re bored… that’s not love. every time i went back to someone like that, it hurt worse.

LoopSpin57
LoopSpin57 19 hrs ago

yes I saw him cheating yesterday

LostEchoes
LostEchoes 4 days ago

i’ve stayed with a cheater too because i “loved him” and it made me do things i’m not proud of. but what you described… that wasn’t just messy. that was him forcing himself on you. i need you to know that’s not you being cheap. that’s him crossing a line. i remember feeling stupid after going back too but you’re not a fool. you were attached and hurting.

LoopSpin57
LoopSpin57 4 days ago

He is ignoring me now which hurts

HushMoo449
HushMoo449 4 days ago

he rap*d you

LoopSpin57
LoopSpin57 4 days ago

🤧

LoopSpin57
LoopSpin57 4 days ago

I hope so too

nike
nike 4 days ago

hope u Heal soon move on

nike
nike 4 days ago

men cheat will never change red flag he will find 1000 women never satisfy. wrong mistake u do is u with other men u should confront her cheat break up so he can't blame u her curse u that red flag he the one who worse . even u love it's hard he cheat mean he don't care love u u need stand up be mean evil so he not treat u like shit object sex . good u block keep block him forever him cheat it's ok u don't tell her we break up cuz damage is done. he alredy broke this relationship y'all alredy break .about sex he use u for sex he hoe. u not fool sis it ok it not u fault If someone wan cheat that their problem. good he not text call u keep block that hoe if he back slap him say u have other men who treat u queen stay strong send u love hug sis u deserve better pls dmt harsh yourself go talk to u friend fam go out journal gym keep busy work school hobby

LoopSpin57
LoopSpin57 4 days ago

Thanks