so I made it past the 1 year mark of her leaving. and ive had no contact with her in 320 days. now im coming up on the anniversary of my dog dying. about 1 month after she left me. so im just in my feels. sad, I keep looking around and seeing how far ive come in the last year, but a part of me still misses her. it still hurts to know she is with someone else. I tried seeing someone else. but were just friends at this point. too much drama and I saw how I was comparing her to my ex wife. so were just friends. and it sucks cuz she is a cool person and we get along pretty well. im just not healed I guess. in some ways im alot better. in others I just feel broken. broken, undesirable, unlovable. and I try to change that mindset, but its hard. Just gotta keep on keeping on I guess. love u all. Just keep breathing. it gets easier in some ways. Just takes time.
Last updated on:2026-04-04T15:55:28+05:30
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I wanted to say thank you for sharing this vulnerable post. I hope you heal and you do deserve to be loved.
I understand. It's been 11 months for me and it's still on my mind every day. I was doing pretty good until I was triggered last week. I've been depressed since then. We will get through this. It helps to stay busy and keep your mind occupied.
Time isn't always the answer. Introspection, in your case, might heal you. If you are feeling negative thoughts about yourself, you need to correct that mindset. You need to become the confident you, first, before you can offer anyone anything, right? So, do research on yourself! Find out what is missing in you. And dont try to fill that void through partners. Full it yourself. Then, once you're whole, once you love who you have become, only then seek love from another.
Excellent advice!
when you say you feel unlovable, is that coming from how she left or from things you’ve been telling yourself since then?
both I suppose. I used to struggle with these feeling about myself. having always been cheated on and eventually left. then 7 years together 5 of which we were married made me finally feel safe. I didnt feel unlovable. then she cheated and left me and made me feel this way all over again
I think it's impressive. You have gone a very long way to get to this point. And I applaud you for that, stranger! Keep going on your healing journey, things will get better:)
honestly i had to stop dating for a while when i noticed i was comparing people to my ex, it just wasn’t fair to me or them. giving myself that space sucked but it helped me slowly feel like myself again.
i hit that one year mark too and thought i’d be “fine” but certain dates just reopen everything. losing her and your dog that close together, yeah that kind of grief stacks up heavy