i got out of a serious relationship with my ex fiancé my first real one and it was messy on both sides. i gave everything i had but it never felt like enough for her and i often felt like i was just an option. she grew distant toward the end and when i finally asked if she still loved me she said she wasn’t happy anymore and left the next day.
a few weeks later she came back for her things and the emptiness hit hard. going from sharing a life to being completely alone overnight was brutal. after a while i pushed myself to move forward instead of staying stuck and i met someone new.
she’s sweet and we share a lot in common but her situation is intense. she hides me from her family says they’d react badly if they knew about me and there’s also an unstable ex in the picture. on top of that i still find myself thinking about my ex sometimes.
i care about this new girl but i’m conflicted. part of me feels like i’m not fully ready for another relationship while another part of me wants to make it work long term. i don’t want to hurt her but i’m also not sure if i rushed into this thinking i was ready when maybe i wasn’t.
Last updated on:2026-04-02T22:29:31+05:30
Comments (8)
It sounds like you rushed, yes. Don't settle for second best. There is baggage there with this new girl you really don't need to carry right now. If I were you, I'd softly end it and concentrate on bettering you right now. You're still carrying the hurt from that previous love. Self care, overcoming the emotional exhaustion, work on bettering you.
i get why you’re torn, she sounds good but that whole situation around her feels heavy.
i think you should take some time to heal first and not rush into a relationship. if you still have unhealed feelings, you might end up hurting the girl you like without meaning to. focus on yourself for now and everything will come at the right time.
I think you need to be alone
take your time bro, you are where you need to be. it’s a process and you are going through it
you feel calm and safe with this new girl, or mostly stressed and unsure when you think about the reality of being with her?
first of all, jumping into a relationship after breaking up and still hurt is such a dick move, you wont know it yet but it'd be very, very, very, hurtful for the girl.
jumping into something new while still carrying the old one. i kept telling myself i was ready but my head kept going back to my ex too. it’s such a weird split feeling, like your heart is in two places at once.