my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 months and yesterday was my birthday so he took me out to see the cherry blossoms. later i realized it was the exact same place he went with his ex on the same date last year and he still has photos of his ex and even his ex before that saved on his phone.
we even went to the same restaurant he had taken her to. at one point we passed a bakery and he mentioned his ex liked it and asked if i wanted to check it out. i also noticed he used to post his ex on instagram he deleted those after i asked but he’s never posted me.
now i’m just sitting here wondering if i’m overthinking all of this or if my feelings about it are actually valid.
Last updated on:2026-04-03T14:49:02+05:30
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Having keepsakes after a long relationship I think can be healthy. So a picture album, a few something they gathered while together can be fine. You are with someone.who has memories and this someone is who they are because of these memories. If you do not want them to have memories you may not want them at all.
I personally keep pictures from every relationship just because i’m sentimental and don’t like deleting pictures.
it feels like he’s projecting his ex onto you because he hasn’t moved on yet. and that’s not fair to you. I know it’s hard, but if you’re constantly overthinking, that’s already an answer. you deserve peace, not confusion. maybe it’s better to let this go, and when the time is right, you’ll find someone who treats you the way you deserve.