we’ve been together 5 years and moved in last year our lease ends soon. i came into this with baggage from past relationships and always had this fear she’d leave me too. the closer we got the more i shut down. after years of feeling emotionally distant from me she told me she wasn’t sure about us or our future. hearing that broke me and i started packing right away but she begged me to stay so i did.
a few weeks later she brought it up again and said she’d made up her mind. she said she wanted a future with me but felt pushed away too many times especially when she talked about marriage and i avoided giving her a clear answer. that’s when it really hit me. i apologized for taking her for granted and admitted i have things i need to work on. i told her i do see a future with her that i want marriage that she’s my person and i hate that it took losing her for me to say it.
that made her break down because it’s all she ever wanted to hear but now she feels confused and overwhelmed. i told her i want to fight for us but she said she needs space. over the past week she’s been staying at a friend’s place sometimes but when we’re together we still kiss say i love you and even sleep together. i left the apartment for the weekend to give her space and i’m going back tomorrow but i have no idea where her head is at. she still loves me but i’m scared i realized everything too late.
nothing big went wrong between us but my past trauma messed things up and i hate that i hurt her like this. i don’t know if there’s still a chance or if taking time apart could ever bring us back together.
Last updated on:2026-04-07T13:12:03+05:30
Comments (3)
damn man, this one hits close to home. had similar walls up with someone few years back and by time i realized what was happening, damage was already done.
the fact she's still showing you love and being intimate means there's definitely something there to work with. but you gotta actually follow through on changing those patterns, not just promise it when everything's falling apart.
Sort out your inner problems. It's not too late because you realize them now, and she's always understanding. So don't waste any more time; heal all your unhappiness.
With all due respect, it sounds like you're panicking and saying what they want to hear so that they won't leave.