I’m still trying to process how my relationship of 5 years ended, because the way it happened really messed with me.
For about two months he gave me the silent treatment. He became distans, cold, like I didn’t matter anymore. I kept trying to understand what was going on, reaching out for basically anything, but I got nothing. It felt like I just got cut off from his life, kind of discarded.
When I finally asked if we could meet and talk he just wrote “Sure, send me a list of the things you have at my place and I’ll drop them off this week.”
That was it. No conversation. No explanation. No acknowledgment of what we had or what I was feeling. Just logistics, like I was something to be dealt with.
My whole world shattered. One moment I was still trying to fix something I thougth we had, and the next it was just over, in the coldest and most detached way possible. It just feels so cruel. I'm left feeling hurt, confused and I have so many questions. It just doesn't make sense. Totally lost in how to even begin healing without a real closure
Last updated on:2026-04-08T20:48:03+05:30
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do you feel like part of you is still waiting for him to come back and explain, or is it more the way he ended it that keeps replaying in your head?
I think what hurts me the most is how he chose to end things. It's just so u fair. But at the same time, there’s still a small part of me that wants some kind of explanation or closure from him. But on the other hand, I know him so well and he is The kind of person who wouldn’t be able to give me a real explanation without somehow turning it to being my fault and only my fault. It's so hard.
honestly i had to accept i was never getting the answers i wanted, and i started making my own closure by writing everything i wish i could’ve said and then letting it sit there.
i’ve been cut off like that after years together too, just silence and then suddenly it’s over like you meant nothing. that kind of ending messed with my head for months, all those unanswered questions just looping.
Did you make it through after all? Did you guys ever talk about it?
Similar situation here, but he let me believe we were okay and then ended things so suddenly. No explanation, just told me to get my things and then he ran away to his family. I thought I needed closure as well, but to be honest a long talk only gave me more anxiety and some hope to rebuild everything. Wouldn't recommend, maybe sometimes it's better to just leave things as they are, especially if the other person seems to be an avoidant. And to be honest nothing makes sense even after this last talk we had. We've been together almost 5 years.
Thank u, and I'm sorry you had to go through that. I think you are on to something, talk probably wouldn't help at all. He is an avoidant, he would just put the blame on me and I would feel so much worse. My brain kind of knows that, but my heart just wont follow.
@WooMoo547 I'm sorry you have to go through this mess as well :--( about the blaming thing - that's exactly what happened during our last "closure" conversation. And I bet it would happen again and again if we wanted to talk things through one more time. Maybe some people just need a new perspective and absolutely no contact to see what they've done. Nothing makes sense with a broken heart, and I guess hearing an avoidant just blaming you could make the beginning of the healing process even harder. Someone who became so cold, distant and hurt their partner so deeply isn't even capable of coping with their emotions in real time. Maybe one day it will hit him how cruel his behaviour was, after what he did to you. I hope you'll be far in your healing journey then and enjoining your life the most. Wishing all the best!