Why is moving on so hard after a breakup?

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I can finally eat normally again, and I'm not as upset about it anymore because I see things more clearly now. He broke up with me because he wasn't happy. But I never left him whenever I wasn't happy in the relationship. Instead, I fought for the person I loved because I wanted our love to last. He simply chose to leave a girl who loved him more than anything, cared about him deeply, and was even better-looking than him.
On top of that, these past few days I've been physically weak because of everything that happened, and I caught his cough because I saw him 4–5 days ago. Now I probably have bronchitis or even pneumonia, and I haven't had a cough this bad in a long time.
When he's happy without you, you're the one crying over him. It doesn't make any sense. You're worth more than that.
But honestly, I want him to come back so I can tell him that he can't just come back into my life. He would have to prove himself and move mountains to earn another chance. I want that because I want to know that he really did love me and truly cared about me. I don't know if he actually did, and I hate asking myself questions that have no answers.

Last updated on:2026-07-25T22:01:11+05:30

Comments (4)

Strawberry1
Strawberry1 8 hrs ago

i didn't need my ex to come back just to prove my love had been real. i knew what i gave, and i stopped letting their choice decide what i was worth.

lpath081
lpath081 9 hrs ago

heartbreak also took my appetite and my ability to feel hunger and thirst. I'm still struggling to eat and drink cuz I really dont feel like eating or the food I'm eating tastes bland. i'm glad you got your appetite back. for now, focus on yourself and your cough. if he ever contacts again, give him days before you respond. making him overthink it will level the playing field

SolidAssist
SolidAssist 13 hrs ago

when heartbreak took my appetite too. around day 5 i kept wanting my ex to come back just so i could finally say "no" after feeling so powerless. that feeling faded way more slowly than i wanted.

JoySpark203
JoySpark203 22 hrs ago

use this time to focus on yourself. Go exercise. Love yourself. Try new things. And if he tries to come back or dm you .. don't respond.. wait for few days .. make him work for you.