we were in contact for the entirety of our breakup. for some reason today i decided o wanted to go no contact. im scared, but obviously something made me feel like it was necessary. i blocked him and unadded him on everything. i told him im not putting a timeline on it because i dont know when im gonna be ready, but i gave myself one. three weeks. that’s when ill reach out again. if i feel like i need to go longer, i will. but that’s my timeline right now. i’m not sure if i should tell him or not. my brain is telling me no, but my heart wants to because i want one last conversation before its real i guess. i’m not sure. i’m just scared honestly. i’m afraid of him moving on. we talked about commitment and how he’s afraid of it, but i can’t keep waiting for someone who isn’t certain of me. i’m just not sure what to do tbh.
Last updated on:2026-09-18T09:25:31+05:30
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hii
i really feel the part where you said your brain says no but your heart wants one last conversation, because which part of you do you think is asking for that conversation, the part that needs closure or the part that’s scared of losing him for good?
i’d keep the three weeks for yourself and leave him out of the decision for now.
I always try to consider my true feelings or motivations behind either choice. For example, does it feel "safer" to tell him the timeline? Like maybe he will wait and not move on if he knows it's one-three weeks vs indefinite? Are you tempted to NOT share the timeline because you wanna see if he actually reaches out or not? vs if he knows it’s gonna be 2 weeks, he might just wait and not even try? I'm not saying that's what I think! Just giving examples of questions that I ask myself because it helps me figure out my true fears and face hard truths. Like if I'm scared my ex won't reach out, it's because I know deep down there's a good chance he really won't. And maybe I'm not ready to face that reality yet.
i know he won’t reach out because i told him that i’ll reach out when im ready. i know that he’s going to redirect my decision.
the first day i went no contact after staying in touch through the whole breakup felt TERRIFYING. i kept thinking he’d meet someone else the second i disappeared, and that fear had me wanting to undo everything within hours.
Girl, if you think he deserves to know that, otherwise it's up to you. I know I would, if the roles were reveresed between me and mine. I'm not sure how long I have to wait for him to come back to talk or when he'll be ready. He's not sure too. Imma just carry on and live my life, learn how to do live on my own again, and if he does, he does.
why did you break up
She explained a little bit in the post
we both have stuff we need to work on before we can actually be in a relationship. focusing on ourselves and figuring out out.