Why does he ignore me when things get tough?

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his family live in the town next mine, we have big fires encercling us
but him, leave hours away
i posted stories with this picture
he knows how bad the situation is but he still don't reach out to know how is it going for me

really showing me he do not care.

Why does he ignore me when things get tough?

Last updated on:2026-07-26T04:11:56+05:30

Comments (15)

Aggresive1
Aggresive1 2 hrs ago

i couldn't keep looking for care from someone who kept choosing not to show it. that was a hard truth, but it finally gave me some peace.

estellemrt
estellemrt 2 hrs ago

i'm happy you finally have some peace now, you deserve it

santaams
santaams 8 hrs ago

has he gone quiet like this before, or does this feel different because of what's happening with the fires?

estellemrt
estellemrt 7 hrs ago

well we only talked twice since the end of the situationship, one cuz i had to send him his belongings and the second cuz i wanted to see him one last time but he refused. so yea we're really in no contact, but it's harder now knowing he doesn't even want to know if i'm okay

PreMedMuse
PreMedMuse 13 hrs ago

waiting for one text when there were storms where i lived, just a simple "are you okay?" and it never came. that silence told me more than any argument ever did

estellemrt
estellemrt 12 hrs ago

really showing how they doesn't care... i hope you were okay and still are

poundcaker
poundcaker yesterday

please accept that not reaching out means what it is. if they wanted to they would. forgive yourself for wanting to be healed by someone who can hurt you so easily. everyone has at least common sense and even a stranger would reach out regarding actual fire. stay safe and take care of yourself. I hope you are okay.

estellemrt
estellemrt yesterday

that's actually healing me, and you're right, everyone would reach out in case of fire, so thank you for your words, i will detach harder now

poundcaker
poundcaker yesterday

@estellemrt please just focus on being safe now. I care honestly. just stay safe.

estellemrt
estellemrt yesterday

@poundcaker that's really sweet :( i'm learning greek by the way so it makes me feel even warmer

estellemrt
estellemrt yesterday

@poundcaker do you perhaps have ig?

poundcaker
poundcaker 15 hrs ago

@estellemrt good luck with the Greek !

estellemrt
estellemrt 2 hrs ago

@poundcaker Ευχαριστώ πολύ

scarz
scarz yesterday

Firstly I hope you and your family are safe sorry to hear about the fires , that sounds pretty scary. It's unfortunate that your boyfriend has not checked in on you that's not a nice feeling I imagine. Try to remember that there are other ppl that do care . Please stay safe .

estellemrt
estellemrt yesterday

that's very kind, we will soon be evacuated so yes we'll be fine !! thanks you for the support