I now know for sure that he has a new girlfriend. It's okay, I've moved on. And I've never felt better.
So why does it still hurt? I dreamt about him again after a long time. I'm afraid of falling back into something.
Things like: Is she prettier? What does she have that I didn't? Can she handle him better?
I used to think I was perfect for my ex. I still think that sometimes, but I know it wasn't enough for me. I know I wouldn't have been happy with him. And yet, sometimes I still wish I could have been the one for him.
Last updated on:2026-07-26T04:23:11+05:30
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i’ve learned that missing the idea of being chosen by someone is different from wanting the relationship back. i used to compare myself to the new person too, then i realized i was measuring my worth against someone who was never the problem.
healing is a confusing journey. I personally know I would go batshit crazy if I were in your position, I hope you are doing okay
finding out my ex had someone new and feeling embarrassed because i was already doing better, but my heart still reacted. healing can be so confusing sometimes.
when you think “i wish i was the one for him,” do you miss him specifically, or do you miss feeling like you were the person he picked? i struggled with that difference for a long time.
I am dreading this day. I hope you are OK.