I'm a 23yo guy who just broke up with my toxic ex a 23yo girl after she cheated on me with her boss

I'm a 23yo guy who just broke up with my toxic ex a 23yo girl after she cheated on me with her boss.
We dated for 3 years. At first it was all love and good memories. I thought she was the one. I was so in love and I genuinely felt she loved me too. She was Catholic and because of her I converted. We even went to church and made a vow to God that we’d never leave each other no matter what.
Her family was struggling financially. Her parents were deep in debt from sending her to college but I didn’t care. I stayed with her even when she had nothing. Paid for her meals helped her move covered her hair and nails you name it. That’s how much I loved her.
But over time things got rocky. We’d fight a lot and the insults we’d throw at each other were brutal. But we stayed together tried to make it work because of that vow. We were both tired but still trying. After every fight we’d make up and I still felt happy when we were together.
Then she started talking about marriage but I couldn’t do it. I was still in school working on my doctor’s degree and had nothing to offer. She said she’d wait for me 4 years if it had to be.
On Lunar New Year we stayed up till midnight giving each other our best wishes. She said she hoped we could overcome any challenge and stay together. She said she loved me so much. I was really happy.
But then we had another fight. This time we didn’t talk for like 3 days. She invited me to go on a trip with her and her boss and two other female colleagues but I didn’t go because I wanted to spend time with my family. After 3 days of silence she told me she needed to talk in person. I couldn’t because I was in our hometown. I asked her what it was about and she said she fell in love with someone else. I suspected it was her boss. I was still so forgiving telling her it was fine as long as it was just a crush and nothing happened. But then she admitted she slept with him basically kissed and hugged him to sleep while they were both sober. My world just collapsed in that moment. I couldn’t even cry or speak. I was in complete shock. The one person I thought would never cheat on me... cheated on me with her boss someone she’d only known for 4 months.
After that I just cried. I cried so much the pain was unbearable. I told my parents about it because I couldn’t handle the hurt. I tried to rationalize it held onto our memories and begged her to come back. But she just said no. The boss had already proposed to her offered her a visa and promised to pay off her parents’ debt.
I kept begging told her I was ready to marry her ASAP if that’s what she wanted. But she shut me down. She said it was too late that she’d already done something unforgivable and that our relationship could never work. She blamed me saying all the fighting we did pushed her to kiss him and sleep with him.
I’m still hurting a lot. I’ve accepted this is the end of our 3 years together. I’ve told my parents and they just keep telling me to forget about her. But it’s still so hard. It’s painful to delete our pictures. I cry every time something reminds me of her. It hurts so much. I can’t believe the person I loved most the one I thought would never betray me did this.

Last updated on:2025-03-06T17:40:42+05:30