we were a thing for six months but knew each other for two years before that. Met her when her mom passed and I was helping her through it. We talked every single day for those two years and I really thought she was into me... she seemed like a shy soft girl or at least that's what I thought. We did have some differences tho like she didn't like me having girl friends I knew longer which was kinda a no-go for me. But like I always invited her to hang with us so she could meet them and see there was nothing sus but she always curved.
Anyway yesterday I picked her up from the airport big deal since we live in different countries. But as soon as she landed something felt off. She wasn't wearing any makeup which was weird. We hung out got coffee and stuff and she kept zoning out. I asked if she was okay and she just snapped at me said she was tired and I was annoying. I apologized and we kept chilling.
She said she was tired so I told her she could crash in the guest room 'cause I wanted to game with my Discord friends and she also said she wasn't feeling the physical touch thing which was totally fine with me. Later I went to pee and overheard her on the phone saying she did something terrible like she cheated on me. I just walked into her room and started crying. She tried to comfort me but I couldn't even. We argued then I just hugged her and said I forgave her but couldn't be with her anymore.
Her reason was just 'cause she wanted to and the other dude was hot and she was worried we wouldn't hook up when she came over. Which okay she was my first person I was gonna have sex with so yeah performance anxiety was a thing but we did do it a couple of times and she said she liked it... so that makes me feel even more useless. She even said she only talked to randoms 'cause I had friends and she wanted me all to herself. Red flag much?
I'm letting her stay at my place till her flight next week 'cause I'm not gonna leave her stranded for a week. But the point is I still love her. The thought of never seeing her again and all our plans not happening and eventually forgetting her face is hitting hard. I don't know how to deal with this I feel miserable and worthless. I'm scared this will mess with my future relationships like I won't be able to trust anyone. Just feel lost and hurt rn.
Talked to her friend and she's saying it's totally out of character 'cause she always talked about how much she loved me wanted to marry me and even had a crush on me before we got together. Even yesterday after I found out she kept saying she loves me and cares about me. Make it make sense.
Last updated on:2025-05-14T00:40:50+05:30
Comments (11)
Hey friend, You are going through a tough situation there.May be keep things slow and not take any decisions in haste but at the same time taking a stand for your heart is also a must since you guys are in a long distance relationship. If you still have a week may be you can talk to her openly and see what's going on , if this could be fixed somehow
Trust the process better things on the way
Kick her to the curb
Yeah okay that thought lowkey crossed my mind but nah I'm not gonna do that she's still a person and all. But dw I know your comment was a joke lol it actually made me smile a little. Thanks for making me feel a bit better and all the best to you too
Nah fam stop being soft. You got your whole life ahead. Just ghost her and move on to better things.
Nah frick that whole weak talk.
OP ain't weak for real showing enough chill and maturity to at least do the right thing and offer her a place till she dips instead of just yeeting her out. That takes guts.
Don't drag OP down for that.
But yeah I agree OP's still young he should just dump her and move on
@MSMGK thanks again for having my back and supporting me. Also hate calling anyone weak cuz it's chill to be hurt it just means you cared. I'm trying to be as nice as possible to her and not do anything wild or extra
She's gonna play the field and so are you. Don't overthink it just treat her like a casual thing.
fam gotta disagree with that take Relationships ain't just games they're a whole special thing so what she did lowkey messed me up But everyone's got their own views so no stress lol Thanks for your perspective tho wish you all the best
Bruh cheating's a choice like it's not a mistake she chose that. Did she even think of you when she hooked up with him probably not. Hope you're feeling a bit better and think about what to do with her carefully. Hope you don't regret whatever you decide.
I'm not really feeling much better still kinda hurts thinking bout her with someone else but this ain't my first time getting cheated on you know? Guess this time just hit different cuz I didn't see it coming she didn't seem like that type of person but whatever I still wish her the best tho and don't regret my choice you just can't go back from cheating. Just wished her the best in life and hope she gets what she wants even tho I won't see it but yeah I get that no matter how hard it is I gotta bounce just scared of feeling that loss and being alone again.