I met my ex after 30 days no contact. I spilled everything told her I'm finally changing. She dumped me cuz I wouldn't change or commit (had trust issues from her cheating like 3 years ago). She was so proud of me hugged me said she saw real change even gave me hope. Then I saw a text from the dude she cheated with... I don't get it. He's why I pulled away and was scared to commit so why's she still talking to him? Why? Why? She begged me to be with her and now she's just texting him telling us to stay no contact til we heal? I'm so hurt
Last updated on:2025-05-31T06:43:47+05:30
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your growing. my friend. she's not available. n if she still doing the same thing and you changing. man change lanes. headed in different directions. n if she still talking to the dude she cheated on you with my guy you deserve better let them have eachother. better is waiting out there for you
Hey If she doesn't choose you completely that means she hasn't chosen.Any words of appreciation or promise mean nothing when actions are so opposite.May be she also needs to learn how to be on her own without any such support.Let her be,and give her time to see your true , affection, Love and hard work that you are willing to put in just to be in her.Clarity on your part regarding what you can't compromise on and Your dearth will definitely make her realise your importance and true place in her heart and real life and then she may come back to you herself without any conditions
She may say she’s proud of your change but real love doesn’t ask for growth while still holding onto the past. Let this be your sign to close the chapter for good
It feels unfair like she tricked you into believing in a future that wasn’t real. But take a step back she’s still stuck in the same cycle. You? You’re moving forward.
I’ve been in your shoes thinking maybe this time it’ll be different. But seeing that text proves something you weren’t the problem. Her inability to respect trust was.
You gave her your growth your vulnerability your willingness to change and she gave you false hope. But the real win? You changed for you not for her. And that’s what matters.
She begged for another chance yet she’s still engaging with the person who broke your trust. That’s not healing that’s a pattern. And you deserve better than repeating the past
I know the pain of feeling played of thinking things finally made sense only to see the same cycle repeat. But her actions prove she hasn’t changed while you have. Hold onto that.
Go out there date around see if anyone else sparks something similar. Even if you're kinda doing it for her it's still progress. I can almost guarantee she'll come back but if or when she does DO NOT go back unless her whole vibe changes. Unless she's down to talk real future stuff I promise you it's not worth it.