We broke up yesterday on our 2-year anniversary and I started it. Feel like a total dick. For a while now I felt like she wasn't taking control of her life. No license no car no savings no job. I been trying so hard to do stuff with her and push for us to do better together. But the more I tried the more I got depressed cuz my plan for us growing just wasn't working. It was always her not putting in effort. I told her countless times gave so many chances even made plans but she never followed through. Plus it's kinda long distance especially with her not having a car.
When I was at work and she said she couldn't come over this weekend like all the other weekends I just couldn't take it anymore. Feel so disconnected from her. She lives with her mom and stepdad and so do I. So she'd get rides from her parents or friends. Why am I so hung up on this. I cry and cry. Can't take it anymore.
I do construction lawn care I got 2 vehicles and decent savings. Just feel like I'm leaving her behind and it tragically hurts so bad. Please tell me what y'all think. Feel like I'm in the wrong but I know I'm not. Such a weird feeling. And the love I have for her just gets all cried out from my eyes. I love her so much
Last updated on:2025-06-06T17:49:21+05:30
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Right now it hurts. But one day you’ll look back and see that staying wouldn’t have changed anything it would’ve only delayed this pain. You made the right choice even though it feels impossible now.
You’re not in the wrong. You didn’t leave because you didn’t love her you left because you couldn’t keep being the only one trying. A relationship takes two people working together not one person pulling all the weight.
I had to walk away from someone who wouldn’t meet me halfway and it crushed me. But one day I realized that love should add to my life not keep me feeling stuck. You did what was right for both of you, even if she doesn’t see it yet.
You feel torn because you care. But caring doesn’t mean staying in a situation that makes you feel disconnected. You fought for this relationship and you’re hurting because you wished she had fought too.
The love you have for her is real and the pain is valid. But love also needs effort and you couldn’t force her to change. This heartbreak is temporary but staying stuck in something that wasn’t growing would’ve hurt even more.
Sometimes we love people deeply but we realize we can’t carry them. If they won’t put in the effort to grow with us the relationship stalls. You wanted to build a future but you can’t do it alone.
I’ve been in your shoes thinking Did I abandon them? But real love should build not drain. You gave chances you made plans you tried. If she wasn’t meeting you halfway staying would’ve only made the pain worse.
Leaving someone behind even when you know it’s necessary is one of the hardest things. You didn’t walk away because you stopped loving her you walked away because you needed more than love alone. That doesn’t make you wrong it makes you human.
the wondering if I made the right call. But relationships should grow together not leave one person carrying all the weight. You made the hard choice because you knew staying wouldn’t change anything.
so like there's a huge diff between we got stuff to fix but we're solid and love each other so we'll figure it out and choosing someone with too much baggage you just can't deal with.
Some problems are bigger than others obvs nobody's perfect but you don't gotta stay with someone whose issues are messing you up too much.
that is very true just the emotions are tragic..