I was in a situationship with this dude for six months five if you take out a month break. We never went official cause he was still messed up from his ex of four years she cheated a bunch and was super toxic which messed with his head. But what we had was so real I felt so seen for the first time like I was comfy with him as my nine year bestie. He was battling his mental health and drug stuff and said it was best for me if he broke up. So he did in July 2024 said I had a bright future focus on it. Still can't get over him. Texted him last week just checking in and he's worse than ever. Asked if we should get back together and he said no if he was gonna act on his feelings he wouldn't have left and that whole you have a future thing. Then he blocked me. He won't budge no matter what blocks me every time I reach out. He sees me as good and himself as bad. And now seeing I can't change how he sees me I wanna move on for both our sakes. How do I grieve someone still alive? How do I accept I can't help him if he doesn't want it? How do I grieve the future I thought he'd be in?
Last updated on:2025-06-07T17:34:26+05:30
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It’s okay to feel heartbroken to feel the weight of loss to wonder why it had to end like this. But one day you’ll look back and realize that the love you needed most wasn’t from him it was the love you finally gave to yourself.
Moving on isn’t about forgetting it’s about accepting that their role in your life has changed. You don’t have to erase the good memories but you do have to stop waiting for more.
There’s nothing wrong with mourning someone who meant so much. But don’t let grief convince you that your best days were tied to him. Your best days are still ahead.
if I just showed them how much I cared they’d come back. But the truth is someone who keeps blocking you keeps shutting you out has already made their choice. And now you need to make yours.
He told you to focus on your future. Maybe it’s time to listen not because he’s right but because you deserve to build a life that isn’t weighed down by someone who refuses to let you in.
Losing someone we thought would be part of our future is its own kind of grief. But I promise you there is a future ahead that won’t feel so painful one where you won’t have to fight so hard to be loved.
You weren’t wrong to believe in what you had it was real and it mattered. But grieving someone who is still here means accepting that their journey is separate from yours now. Even if you still love them.
someone who once felt like home but is now unreachable. It feels impossible but little by little you have to let go not because you don’t care but because holding on is only hurting you.