im new here. me and my bf was meant to go no contact last night. I broke it today as I found out he was messaging a girl, so I asked what he was messaging as we both said we are still together jus apart for a bit. he wouldn't show me or tell me and it hurt me. he said we are done then n there. and I pleaded to know hes coming back to me after we are done healing. he said he would when hes ready and that I can check up every week to see if hes ready or not. im so hurt, drained and very tired..I dropped everytbing for this man, even my family. and I think hes cheating on me with this girl.
Last updated on:2025-08-27T12:00:04+05:30
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i did the same, put my whole world into one person and then watched him talk to someone else. i kept thinking if i stayed patient he’d pick me again. it broke me down. you sound like you’re in that same place right now, holding on because he says maybe later.
i begging too like if i just knew the answer maybe i’d feel okay. he kept talking to other girls and i kept asking why. he’d flip it on me say i was crazy. it made me hate myself. i see that same begging in what you wrote. it’s like you’re asking for scraps from someone who already decided.
Know your worth and take back your power! Don't let him play those games with you! Be strong and ghost him!
drop in every week to see if he is ready….god. my ex started to doubt our relationship if she wanted to still be together. we had some talks very week. in my mind I set a date for when she had to give me a straight answer yes or no. my tip for you is to the same. you should not have to live in a gray zone of doubt. be the stronger person and take control on your own terms. you deserve to happy. and if he is cheating then he do not deserve you. you are the stronger person with standards.
I am going through a similar thing with someone who wants to come back on their timing when they're ready and I do desperately want to wait, but he is not worth my time or energy. It is time to move on and someday someone who will come into my life that won't hurt me like he did, and the same is true for you. It really sucks, I am still freshly going through this too, but he's not for you. Focus on yourself when the time is right, someone much better who was worth the wait will find you ❤️
don’t ever drop anything for man, honey. if that’s the way he’s making you feel, you body will remember that & he’s not for you. you’ll be more comfortable on your own. you are in control. you are your own strength.