Do avoidants ever feel regret? or realise the impact of their actions when their distractions run out?
Last updated on:2025-09-05T01:50:04+05:30
Do avoidants ever feel regret?
Do avoidants ever feel regret? or realise the impact of their actions when their distractions run out?
Last updated on:2025-09-05T01:50:04+05:30
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you’re hoping the silence breaks when the distractions fade. i thought the same about my ex. maybe they feel it, maybe not. i never got proof either way.
i used to wonder that every day. i’ll never know for sure, but it helped me when i stopped tying my peace to whether he regretted it. sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t.
mine didn’t. he jumped to the next girl acted like nothing happened. if he ever felt regret he buried it. i wasted so much time waiting for him to suddenly care.
such disgusting behaviour. you dodged a bullet.
Well, look. I ve been together with an anxious avoidant with bpd, it was something else, she actually tried to label me as the avoidant it was just her projection (im anxious-secure). They do feel regret at one point, when they miss things that you used to do with him, little texts, calls after activities, compliments etc. My ex started stalking a few weeks ago, unblocked me on insta, changed her pfp there with the necklace i gifted her, as of now we are 2 months into it, her internship with her friends is coming to an end, and as you can imagine she s slowly trying to creep in, but not message me since it will hurt her ego. She wants me to do it, but my last act of love for her is just to let go. The more you improve yourself, the more it s going to hurt them and will probably contact you with breadcrumbs (hasn't happened to me yet, but I ve seen it a lot with other people). Be kind to yourself:)
I’m not sure but the girl I fell in love with was avoidant but really she just loved someone else. But the thing is I want her back so badly even though she’s most probably back with her ex.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that. it sucks. mines seeing an ex stripper friend of his.
@Adriennexo it’s been 3 weeks since she has moved on. But I can’t accept she’s really gone. I fail no contact ever few days.
but the thing is I meant nothing. I was just a rebound but I can’t seem to process that.
@JoshHayes88 yeah I feel like I was a rebound too. I just don’t understand how they can move on so fast if they say you meant so much to them. truly heartbreaking.