since he broke no contact, even tho I stood my ground and held my boundaries, it just triggered me all over again. I’m not missing him, but all the questions I had before that I thought I had put to rest in my mind keep popping back up now. I want answers. Why would he reach out to start a fight then try end it with telling me how much he still loves me and if we could be intimate again. I held my boundaries and said no. and since then he’s gone right back to distracting himself with other women. his behaviour since the break up is so off putting and just furthermore reaffirming the reason I left him because of how lustful he really was. it’s left me with a really uneasy feeling.
Last updated on:2025-09-17T02:41:45+05:30
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when he reached out, did part of you deep down expect maybe an apology or closure, and that’s why it feels so uneasy now?
I think so, so when he didn’t really apologise, just confessed he still loves me, and wants to be intimate again it was such a let down
that’s a whirlwind. what usually helps me after stuff like this is reminding myself that i don’t actually need his answers. even if he spelled it out, it probably wouldn’t bring peace. the peace comes from me staying firm like you already did.
thank you I needed this
i had an ex who did the exact same thing… broke no contact just to stir me up, throw some “i still love you” lines in, then disappear into someone else’s bed. it’s so confusing in the moment but later i realized it was all about his need for control, not my healing. i really felt this in my chest reading your post.
yup and I feel like he’s gonna just keep doing that to me bc he knows he can get back with me, sex was just an easy in if he wanted to get back with me. glad I didn’t let him in.
I hope mine never comes back just for this reason im finally starting to feel better I don't want to crumble all over again im sorry sorry 😐
I am with you. these people are damaged. they have complex trauma and we cant rehabilitate them.
ugh that sucks :( for your own health and happiness it seems like its time to block him