so I contacted him yesterday to get my stuff back, and return his as a last final step of the break up, I was super neutral, and he’s just stalling. he replied instantly but he tried to divert the conversation to a surgery he’s apparently having sometime this week so he’d “let me know”, so I said okay that’s fine let’s just do a no contact hand off, bag my stuff and leave my stuff on the street and I’ll leave yours in the same spot. He stopped replying. He’s been wanting to see me and I’ve been ignoring him and his requests. I just want this to be over with. after we return eachothers things there’s no need for us to be in contact again. So I don’t understand why he’s stalling this.
Last updated on:2025-09-24T10:22:59+05:30
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do you think he actually wants to see you one last time, or is he just avoiding the finality of no more contact?
last weekend he asked and pleaded for me to see him for sex, and tried to explain it’s bc he still loves me etc but I refused, so not sure but I’m pretty sure he doesn’t like the finality of it either way
he’s stalling because it gives him a reason to keep you talking. your plan to make it a clean, no-contact drop-off is the best move.
Hey, a few days ago I also contacted my ex about my stuff (he was blocked until then) and told him to leave it at a mutual friend's house. He immediately wanted to get into discussions and that he wanted to stay on good terms with me, but I immediately closed that door and told him that I believe that when two energies finally separate, that these people will never meet again, that I don't want to see or hear from him and that this time I won't look for him and that I'm letting it all go. The relationship was extremely traumatic, full of manipulation and toxic and it is difficult every day because I literally became addicted to it - trauma bonding, but this time I chose myself. He still hasn't returned my things, so I believe he'll want to get me to call again, but I won't anymore. he can throw it all in the trash, i don't care 🤣🤣
ugh i feel this. my ex dragged out the “stuff exchange” for weeks too, acting like it was about logistics but really just trying to keep a foot in the door. it was exhausting.
I am on opposite side of this, no contact means higher chances that whatever 0.000001% chances are left are going to die.
not sure what you mean
thing is I don’t want a chance, I want everything to end finally, he’s resisting it
@Adriennexo I mean he would till the end. He doesn't want things to end. Be bold
Because giving up and actually letting yourself feel that it’s over can be different things. Even if he wants to be done, it’s not as easy to do as say.