Is it weird or messed up to keep messages from a toxic relationship not because you want them back, but to have as evidence they hurt you? Like yes, this message is proof im not crazy, and they were abusing me
Last updated on:2025-10-09T22:51:29+05:30
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meeeeeee
have you thought about how keeping them affects your day-to-day? does it help you heal or stir up more hurt?
i get that, it’s normal to need evidence. just make sure it doesn’t keep dragging you back into the pain. maybe save it somewhere safe and separate.
feel like it’s depends on you. normally I’m the type to just raw dog it and delete on the first day of no contact. out of sight out of mind but this one so different with everything we went thru that was good aswell as all the bad I suffered. I don’t trust myself to keep him unblocked but I do trust myself to keep the evidence of the neglect and mean words and wrong behavior to remind myself why he’s blocked n why he can’t be back in my life no matter how bad I miss him. keep them until ur ready to let go. one day you will be so disgusted by it u won’t even want to keep it anymore. all in ur own time. Rn I don’t even look at them but once I can look at them and can not feel hurt by his words or even care I’ll delete them
i kept texts from my ex too 😭 seeing her reminded me i wasn’t imagining the gaslighting. it’s valid to hold onto proof for yourself.
I personally have deleted every single message and chat conversation and photos as holding onto them just keeps you from moving forward with your life. You don’t need to keep them for evidence that they hurt you, your heart already knows this. I felt so much better clearing out every trace of him and now 66 days later I am beginning to love and care for myself as I should have done all along. will never loose my truth again for any man xxxx