Do I use her or is this real ?

My girlfriend left me 10 days ago. I still cry every day. Every little thing reminds me of her. Every thought of her makes my chest hurt.

Last night, I was at a friend’s party and talked to this woman I met 3 years ago. Cute. Funny. Smart. Back then, I was in a relationship, so nothing ever happened. But last night… we talked for two hours, went for a walk… and we kissed.

I like her. I really do. But it’s so soon. My heart is still bleeding. I don’t want this to be a rebound. That wouldn’t be fair to her. She knows what’s going on. I told her everything. And she just said: “Don’t think too much, just live…”

How do you just “live” when your heart is still torn in two?

Last updated on:2025-10-13T04:25:03+05:30

Comments (7)

sizzumon
sizzumon 5 mths ago

how are you coping with your own feelings while also exploring this new connection? are you giving yourself space to grieve first?

angryman
angryman 5 mths ago

honestly, just take it slow. you don’t have to have it all figured out. feeling torn is normal, and being honest like you are is already huge

Shygirl
Shygirl 5 mths ago

i started seeing someone new a month after my breakup and felt guilty every second. heart still bleeding but trying to let myself feel new things

mjones0511
mjones0511 5 mths ago

too soon brother, it's not fair to the ne w girl because you'll still be thinking of your ex. Just my opinion

Shiro
Shiro 5 mths ago

your heart is craving someone to fill in the void she left and i know it’s hard but it won’t close the wound right away. you don’t deserve this, i’m sorry. even if it’s her that you think you can rely on for emotional support then so be it. your mental health matters, always.

LuckyCharm674
LuckyCharm674 5 mths ago

I know, deep down, that you're right...
I see her again on monday, we'll see, but I know that 4 years ago I left a woman because of my selfishness (she was a rebound and fell in love with me when I was just looking for someone to hold in my arms), no way I'm doing the same mistake again. Only difference : O., this "new" woman, knows exactly what I'm going through...

Shiro
Shiro 5 mths ago

@LuckyCharm674 the fact that you know what you did was wrong shows that you’re already growing as a person. we all make mistakes because we’re human. what matters is how we take action from now on. if she knows what you’re going through, i’m sure she’ll be understanding