He cheated at around 6 months, regardless of being hurt I forgave him and wanted him to show me he changed and was willing to work on things. 2 months of just orbiting and not making a dent in repairing his damage. Then at 8 months said he “struggled to see a future”.
Acceptance is the only way around this. It's hard not being able to stomach the possibility of replacement, him forming new connections.
But it's not in my control. There is nothing I can do. Nothing belongs to me. It breaks my heart.
But I need to let him be happy. I want his happiness with or without me. But it just hurts.
It's okay. Everything will be okay. I hope he finds happiness. I am just broken and sick of being left to pick up the pieces. Everytime.
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exactly the same. we were together for 7, but 8months this 21st.
we met at one of his wrestling matches and I was a manager for a different school. I had seen him before hand but finally had the courage to go up to him and ask for his socials. he instantly said yes. excited we talked for a month till we finally met, later we started dating. he asked ME. we were an hour away, so we couldn't hang out, but I would skip school to go see him as much as I could. he had been my first boyfriend in 2.5 years. being able to trust again, I loved him. I had the car and money in the relationship. I would plan and pay for every hangout/date. no flowers once given, but hey I got gas most of the time.
I had noticed out of nowhere, 5 months in, he started being distant, not wanting to call text and send videos to me. that's when I knew there was someone else.
one date, to an aquarium. the first in 1.5 months of seeing him because of how busy he was and how "locked in" he was in school. I made him drive my car. I took his phone
an excuse was his phone had better camera quality. but I was taking videos of us while he drives us to his house. I posted the first time of us on his Snapchat of him avoiding to. instantly. people messaging him
"who is this?? this isn't ***(the girl he was dating/cheating on me with )??" and more
I broke..holding my composer. I acted like everything was fine. he was white as a ghost, trying to seem calm, asking what I was doing. and to get off his phone and give him directions...to his own home??
I was texting the other girls and sending my @ to message me, screenshotting everything sending to myself. we finally made it to his home. he was getting ready to leave like nothing happened, gave me a kiss and was about to head to his home. I stopped him, looked at him. and said bye, I love you. he looked at his phone the whole time. practicing ran home.
I gave him 5mins..
I called him, he was breathing hard.
I told him to come down and go my car
I told him I knew. I've known. but finally had proof.
he explained. I forgave him, bc I'm dumb and was in love and didn't want to me alone.
or let him with anyone else I now know
he got me pregnant in the summer.
we had an abortion, even tho he begged me to keep it.
he then kept hiding things from me.
on that damn phone..
month 7, I saw messages between him and his girl cousin saying he didn't trust me after I caught him, saying how I'm crazy and doesn't leave him alone..
they called and texted more than me and him. I was jealous. hated her
made him block her.
he hated it but "did it"
weeks later, he fell asleep went through his phone for the first time.
she wasn't blocked, he made a second account just to text her on.
told her he was gonna leave me after I boght him a ps5 for his birthday.
I left his house, ran. drove an hour home. per usual.
he begged me not to break up with him.
I wanted time to think. then he thought for me.
broke up with me.
I found out I was pregnant again. we got back together, he begged for me back.
I took him back..
he was being mean the whole time, ignoring me, wanting space getting mad at me all the time..I felt trapped and alone. I planned to leave but he beat me to it, AGAIN.
found out he was telling his friend who had the girl he cheated on me with on Snapchat and told him when he opened a snap of her, he said " damn I fumbled a baddie"
I broke.
he left me, pregnant. he promised
do you think forgiving him was more about hoping he’d change, or about wanting to keep what you’d already built? both are valid, just curious what felt stronger for you.
Both. My forgiveness was more for me, not him.
it’s okay to still want him happy while feeling shattered. that’s real love, not weakness. what helped me a bit was reminding myself he already took enough i don’t have to carry his choices too.
my ex cheated too and i still tried to fix it, thinking love could heal what he broke. that “acceptance” part hits hard… it’s the worst kind of peace
i love how you said it's not your control, you deserve a lot that is afraid to lose you. i hope you're doing okay today. fighting!