I've had this app for a week now, first made it 3 days, then reached out. Then two more days, reached out, then reached out again today. I feel like such a failure. Is this normal? When does it get easier to stay on track?
Last updated on:2025-10-21T20:19:03+05:30
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consistency is tough at first. for me, journaling a little every day helped more than trying to force no-contact perfectly. small wins count
ugh i’ve been there 😭 i kept reaching out over and over, felt like i was failing too. it DOES get easier, just takes time and patience
it took me a week just to reach 1 day, I just couldn’t leave him alone. being at 2 days now is such a massive thing for me. i found that it’s easy over the weekend when im busy and distracted until late. on the weeknights when ive got work the next day etc is when it gets hard. i started going on runs late in the evening so by the time i got back I didn’t have time to feel lonely.
another thing that helps me is telling myself that he’ll be wondering what I’m up to and why I’m not messaging him… making him miss me.
well, I didnt have an app and we were not in no contact, we just broke up and I or Him broke it everyday the first 4 days. after that we only reached out so we could give/take back our things. A month later they reached out to pay off a debt and that was it
it was 2 times for me. it’s normal and you’ll slowly get used to it. the first 4-5 days are hard because you’re constantly resisting the urge to text them checking their socials but then you start to slow down a bit. stay strong🍀
be honest with yourself, do you really want to keep no contact? if not it’s ok. just don’t lie to yourself. I think most of us at one point we break the no contact. don’t see it as a failure.