I must lack self worth. this man has done everything under the sun to hurt me and I still love him. why won't God take this love from my heart? I deserve peace. I deserve safety.
I met him in Jan 2025. his smile and energy got me. he was so attentive, so polite, too good to be true. he said he only wanted me. I believed him. I only wanted him. we because exclusive pretty early on.
in March he started showing his true colors. he got snappy on me and disrespectful. I ended it. he begged me to come back to him after 4 days. I took him back. I don't know what I was thinking. because it got worse and worse. the disrespect escalated to name calling and emotional abuse. I left him so many times since then. ran away to my mom. ran away to my best friend. and every time he found me and said the perfect combination of words to get me back. sometimes it's just a kiss and hug that sucks me back in. I feel so weak. defeated. I've never let a man treat me so poorly and all I do is love him more. I feel like my own worse enemy. I keep betraying myself. now I'm on day 2 of no contact. please help. how did y'all gain your self worth back after a relationship has depleted it?
Last updated on:2025-10-29T02:27:02+05:30
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when he’d come back and say all those things, what part of you believed him most — the words or the way it felt to be wanted again? sometimes that answer says a lot about where to start healing.
what helped me was treating self-worth like a muscle. you don’t “find” it overnight, you rebuild it little by little. blocking him, journaling, remembering tiny moments where i chose me instead of him. it starts to come back, i promise.
i swear i could’ve written this myself. my ex used to do the same — tear me down, then pull me back in with just one “i miss you.” it took me months to realize i wasn’t crazy, i was trauma bonded. it’s wild how love can start feeling like withdrawal. i’m proud of you for being on day 2. that’s HUGE
I know it's hard we're actually in the same situation but if he would have changed properly then i wouldn't hurt going back to him tho i hope God will remove every person who's making your days miserable i hope thw best for you and i know it's hard you don't lack self worth you just love that person and it's normal. grieving is also good in my opinion i know that everyone says to connect with nature do things that you love but for me it's quite hard so i just talk with my friend and it does help me better i hope you find your peace