unsurprisingly, I tricked myself. I'm very emotionally unintelligent. So not only did I really think I LOVED this man, I thought it was gonna be forever. My friends told me I didn't need him, but I went back. So not only did he MANIPULATE me AGAIN, after I apologized I got blocked 3 days later without explanation. But...there's this guy. And we have a lot in common. And he's genuinely sweet. A little too sweet. He only lives 30 minutes away from me, and that's good because I'm not too sure about long distance anymore. I'm takimg things slow, we both are. And FINALLY, there's no overly freakiness or even lust. He just...gets me. But I don't wanna move on just so fast. Im scared. Is it too short to move on? I don't want to seem like I have a new boyfriend every day. I just want peace. Would I seem like some type of...tramp if I move on? Asking for a friend..
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Point 1 please don't call yourself any names.
Point 2 please don't worry about others think of you.
Point 3 please remember that everyone has something going on in their personal lives but it's much easier to bash other people than deal with themselves
Point 4 noone is perfect, but you must focus on yourself, your happiness, your peace and loving yourself
Point 5 if we all went around pleasing others where would we be in the world? lonely, depressed or worse.
So now it's your time to be happy, for you not others. Do what pleases you, not others. Live for you, not others.
I hope you take some positives from all comments x
thank you for your kind words!!
@mimi we're all in this together. we got you
when you say you’re scared to move on too soon, is it more about how people might see it, or because you’re worried your heart’s not ready yet?
I know I'm ready to move on, I just dont want people to think of me weird for moving on so soon
you don’t owe anyone a timeline. it’s okay to take it slow and still enjoy something that feels good. just keep checking in with yourself not what others might think.
honestly, there’s nothing wrong with talking to someone new if there was nothing but toxicity in the past relationship. but maybe allow yourself to heal while keeping a soft connection with him so that it doesn’t hurt both of you.
i realized that moving too fast doesn’t guarantee long-term happiness
absolutely. I'm taking my time, and he's allowing me to focus on myself before we jump into anything. Thank you!!
@mimi anytime! ((: i’m glad that you guys came to an understanding
i jumped into something new right after a guy messed with my head too. i was scared people would think i moved on too fast, but honestly, i was just craving calm. you’re not a “tramp.” you’re someone who’s been through emotional chaos and finally found someone who feels safe. that’s not shameful, that’s human.
thank you!!