i removed her from snap. and still think about her all the time. i didn't keep enough friends so she was easily and basically my world. we spoke everytime of the day. I'm 4 days in on NC. and It's for sure damn difficult.I need new friends please!
i always find myself wanting to go back...but honestl, I'm sure she's the problem. if she reciprocated the way i treated her i wouldn't have been in this constant loop of thoughts. but i guess it is what it is.
Last updated on:2025-11-14T05:10:41+05:30
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when you say she didn’t reciprocate was it like she didn’t match your effort, or more like she didn’t show up emotionally? trying to understand what made you realize she was the problem.
tbh she was emotionally available occasionally, we had a lil distance in-between but she made sure to be there emotionally anytime we speak. but the efforts is where i saw a deficiency.
it was one sided. making me feel some type of way. as i normally do not like to force things....it became usual that i be the one to always reach out and check up younno...it was clear to me when we had an argument sometime ago and she mentioned "if you want to leave you can leave"
anytime i think about that day i kinda wished i left immediately
but i didn't give up. i tried to revive that first spark not knowing she quenched it a long time ago.
I'm in the process now and i know i deserve some real love. we all do.
let's be friends if you'd want💙
no contact sucks at first. what usually helps me is filling the time i’d spend thinking about them with anyone else classmates, gym people, even randoms online. doesn’t have to be deep. just small human moments that remind you there’s life outside that loop.
when i cut off my ex i realized how small my world had become around her too. we were always texting, always together. it’s wild how empty the silence feels after. but honestly, the moment i started reconnecting with old friends and doing small things just for me, it slowly stopped feeling like withdrawal and started feeling like peace. 4 days in is tough, but you’re doing the hardest part right now
i’d be happy to be your friend!
great!
how can we keep in touch?
@victim does whatsapp or line work for you?
I'm in the same boat. I was seeing him for almost 2 years, we used to talk every day and the busier he got the less he made contact with me. it continued to get worse and we didn't even see eachother for the past 3/4 months with very limited contact. I was always checking my phone for a message but nothing. we started having disagreements to which I would always end up apologising for having feelings which he couldn't take on board. yesterday I built up the courage to block him, I feel positive about it but also nervous that it's final and I'll never know if he has tried to contact me or not. but I couldn't continue on like that as I'm spiraling into a depression fast, I haven't been going to work since last week. but I talk openly on this platform which helps me alot. I know it will get easier for us both
we could be friends if u want 🤍
okay cool.
where do you feel comfortable texting?
WhatsApp?
@victim yess