how do i detach

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it’s only been 11 days of no contact. i can’t stop thinking of him. i wonder from time to time what he’s doing or if he’s moved on. he stopped checking my profile, removed our song from bio, and all the emotional reposts aimed at me. the urge to text or check his profile has lessened but the thought of him won’t go away. it’s already been 2 months since the breakup and i got closure but i still can’t move on. i don’t want to keep feeling like this. does it even get better?

Last updated on:2025-11-17T07:31:04+05:30

Comments (8)

NIbbula01
NIbbula01 4 mths ago

what part hurts you the most right now? the missing, the silence, or seeing him remove those things?

Shiro
Shiro 4 mths ago

i think it’s the thought of him moving on. nothing hurts more than him letting go while i’m still stuck here wanting to fight for what we could have

Shygirl
Shygirl 4 mths ago

for me it got better really slowly. not in a clean straight line. the thoughts didn’t stop, they just stopped feeling like knives after a while. keeping no contact helped more than i expected even when i hated every second of it.

Breathing
Breathing 4 mths ago

my ex went silent, deleted all our little “couple things,” stopped watching my stories. i remember thinking the same… like why am i still stuck when they’re already living like i never existed. it’s a horrible ache and it doesn’t switch off just because the relationship ended

Shiro
Shiro 4 mths ago

it’s the worst feeling to exist. i’m sorry it’s happening to you too. it’s frustrating we can’t do anything better but to let go. i hope good things come our way soon🍀

isaa
isaa 4 mths ago

In my case, with a past relationship, everything got better when I focused on someone else. It's not ideal, but you'll feel better

caitie
caitie 4 mths ago

it’s been so so long and i’m still not over this boy. from my experience it doesn’t go away but it gets more bareable and i guess that’s better then nothing. i’m so sorry this is happening to you and im here if you need support x

Shiro
Shiro 4 mths ago

thank you. likewise, i’d be happy to lend an ear if you wanna talk ( :